We all want our marriages and relationships last, right? Some people seem to have an easier go at it than others for sure! Here are some startling and fascinating figures about marriages that you would not have suspected to be an issue or cause for divorce.
If you’re in a male same-sex marriage, it’s 50 percent more likely to end in divorce than a heterosexual marriage. If you’re in a female same-sex marriage, this figure soars to 167 percent. This is based on research done in Norway and Sweden. The good news is that sexuality and reproduction is increasingly being separated in relationships of all types. Therefore, the disparity between homosexual and heterosexual relationships is decreasing. In other words, people are no longer going through “natural avenues” to have a family in any type of sexual orientation relationship. Adoption and artificial insemination has seen a spike in popularity in recent years.
Do you have triplets or multiples? Having more than one child at once can take a crushing blow on a marriage as well as a family’s finances. It’s no wonder why your marriage is 17 percent more likely to end in divorce than if your children are not multiple births. As if that isn’t already hard to swallow, the average age of mothers has gone from 26 years old in the early 1970s, to reach over 29 years in the most recent figures. You can also thank en vitro-fertilization and other artificial means of planning a family to these odds according to this study.
Cancer can be a real killer, even with marriages. With this study, it was discovered that cervical cancer can increase the odds of divorce by 40%. With testicular cancer, the divorce rate increase is 20%. It is likely that since these two types of cancer affect the sexual organs and the intimacy factor of the relationship, one can conclude that the lack of sexual relations being the way they normally were is a factor.
To know more about testicular cancer, go here.
A bit of trivia, and is quite surprising, is that what gender your children are serves a role in the success of your marriage. Yes, it’s quite true, according to this research. It is estimate that in any given year, roughly 52,000 first-born daughters younger than 12 years (and all their siblings) would have had a resident father if they had been boys. Fathers have a more invested interest in their sons than daughters. So, if the child is a girl, there is a 5% increase in the likelihood of divorce. This has been a consistent finding since the 1960’s and continues to not waiver every year. Sperm sorting is already a possibility and being practices in Canada, the U.K, and some Australian states. However, the European Convention on Bioethics does not condone it. The American Society of Reproductive Medicine does condone such behavior, but only in addition to genetic diagnosis (under the veil of trying to have a healthy baby). Imagine if China had such a practice! That country already has too many males and not enough females due to the high abortion rate and abandonment of baby girls.
Being an Evangelical Christian is good news for your marriage. You are the least likely to divorce says this article, with just a 26% rate. However, if your Catholic, which has always been deemed the most orthodox and conservative sector of society, has a 28% chance of divorce. Not surprisingly, atheists have a 30% chance of divorce and non-Christians have a 38% chance of divorce.
In the 1920’s, the KKK capital of the U.S was Wayne County, Ohio. Being one of the most rural areas of the country isn’t the only thing it’s famous for. It also has a divorce ratio of 19.2% for all those age 15 and older. Living in a rural area doesn’t appear to bring more peace to your life, because Florida’s Monroe County, which includes the Keys, has an 18% ratio of divorce in that county alone!
In Australia, it has been found that 72 per cent of the Australian population will legally marry at some point in their lives; of these marriages, one-third are expected to end in divorce. As many of us know, Children of divorced parents have lower scores on indicators of behavior, psychological adjustment, scholastic success, social interactions and self-concept than do children of continuously married parents. Here in the U.S, you’re 90 percent more likely to get divorced than if this had been the first marriage for both of you.
Wide age gaps between spouses can create sexual discord and other disagreements. One wants to have sex all the time, the other just wants to scratch his/her butt and go to bed. Studies have shown that if you’re a woman two or more years older than your husband, your marriage is 53 percent more likely to end in divorce than if he was one year younger to three years older.
Here’s a comforting factoid. Do you have a low IQ? This may not only keep you out of college and higher paying jobs, but it may also keep you form having a decent marriage! Those with IQs of 100 face a 28 percent probability of divorce in the first five years of marriage, compared to just a 9 percent probability for those with IQs of 130. And, if you are below average, under an IQ of 80, you’re 50 percent more likely to be divorced than those of “above average” intelligence.
(Source: Linda S. Gottfredson, “The General Intelligence Factor,” Scientific American, Winter 1998, and Richard J. Herrnstein and Charles A. Murray, The Bell Curve: Intelligence and Class Structure in American Life, Simon & Schuster, 1994, page 176)
Just living in America puts your marriage automatically in doom and peril. Being married in America increases the likelihood of divorce by 40%-50% says this study. Fortunately people have taken notice of this fact since the peak of divorce rates in the 1980’s and are making wiser decisions about marriage, thus driving down divorce rates slightly each year since.
If you’re a female serial cohabiter-a woman who has lived with more than one partner before your first marriage-then you’re 40 percent more likely to get divorced than women who have never done so. Living with or being married to someone is not something a serial cohabiter takes as seriously as one who has never lived with someone before. Serial cohabiters are overrepresented among economically disadvantaged groups, especially those on welfare. As many know, if finances are a huge problem in the relationship, then divorce is likely to ensue. This suggests that women in demographically disadvantaged populations need more training and education about risky relationships. This also tells us that women who are unwed mothers, including poor cohabiting women, have unusually low rates of marriage or high rates of divorce, according to this study.
Republican states do not garner less divorce numbers, despite the overwhelming conservative messages they represent. Contradictory to popular consensus, Democratic states have lower divorce rates by as much as 27% less. (Source: National Vital Statistics Report, 2003; cited in The Compassionate Community: Ten Values to Unite America, by Jonathan Miller and Al Gore)
Arguing about money is a real drain on the whole family. It is no surprise then arguing about money at least once a week will increase the likelihood of divorce by as much as 30%. This same study found that couples with no assets at the beginning of a three-year period are 70 percent more likely to divorce by the end of that period than couples with $10,000 in assets.
Another obvious factor that leads to a higher likelihood of divorce is having parents that divorced. If your parents were divorced, you’re at least 40 percent more likely to get divorced than if they weren’t. If your parents married others after divorcing, you’re 91 percent more likely to get divorced. (Source: Nicholas Wolfinger, Understanding the Divorce Cycle, Cambridge University Press, 2005)
Don’t smoke if your partner doesn’t smoke says this research. Why? The more similar people are in their values, backgrounds, and life goals, the more likely they are to have a successful marriage. This goes for anything, not just smoking. Having inconsistent values, backgrounds, and life goals will increase your chances of divorce by 75% to 90%!
What’s the moral of the story? Be as closely akin to your partner as possible. Don’t argue about money, kids, etc. Live in a liberal, marijuana-smoking state (kidding about that last part). Since you can’t change your parents, learn from their mistakes and don’t repeat them. Don’t live with a bunch of people first; disease is a real drag too. Move out of America. Live in a bigger town, preferably without people walking around with white hoods dragging black people tied to their back bumpers. Before you move, check out the town first and see if there is good mix of colors too. If you have a low IQ, invest in a dog instead. Don’t find a partner with a huge age gap and lacks the same sex drive as you. Go to church and find God, it’ll make a world of difference for your afterlife as well! If you seem to be out of luck with having boys, adopt one. Don’t have sex with the same gender (unless being ergonomically incorrect somehow pleases you more).