Saying no to a child can be very difficult. Just because they are so cute, and you would hate to let them down and possibly make them cry. No parent wants to see that. However saying no when necessary is crucial for your child’s development and security as they age. Most of the time parents spend their time making their children happy and laughing. Which is totally fine, but you will come to figure out that your child may end up spoiled with all the gifts you give them to make them happy. This means “sissy fits” in the store when you say no to a toy. That is why you have to make this clear before hand and prevent this from happening.
Now I know you will not always succeed in saying no and you will not always prevent in store sissy fits, but there are a few things you should definitely avoid at all times when saying no. Never say no, then give in and let them get what they want. This is the biggest trick that kids can set up on you. You let this happen more than once or twice. Then expect it for a long time! Children are smarter than you think. They are able to figure out these types of situations at a very young age. When your feeling stressed and just fed up with the whole situation, don’t say yes, just get out of where you are at and explain why they need to settle down. Or maybe next time have a babysitter when going out to the store.
Children who are brought up spoiled think they can have anything they want in life. So when they get out in the real world. They won’t take no very well and eventually lead them into problems and trouble later on. Where kids who are brought up with a strong understanding but also the same time, a loving and caring environment. Then most likely they will have the opportunity to be successful in life. Such as being able to accept helpful criticism and negative criticism. They will more likely think before they act.
Below I created a couple more tips on saying No in a positive manner.
1) Balance – Saying no all the time 24/7 can be a negative impact on the child. Making him think everything is no in the world. So your child will grow up most likely being negative.
2) The Environment Alternative – If you find your child way too out of control and the no is not working, then go outside, the park, let them get rid of all that extra energy.
3) The Look – The look early on can give a strong message to a child. The look can be the same as no when the child gets a little older.
4)Tone Of Voice – Saying no in a yes sort of way is the wrong way to go about it. Say no firm and confident. The child will understand you mean business.
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