Women are known for their ability to multi-task. This skill has pluses and minuses. The benefits are that women can accomplish a lot at once. Women can talk on the phone, make dinner and help with homework all at once.
Women can vacuum the rug while holding and singing to a baby while tending to the laundry.
Whew!! Women really know how to stress themselves. Obviously the stresses involve times of feeling overwhelmed, exhausted and stressed out and, often, not doing any of the tasks as well as if they were able to focus on one at a time … but they do get done!
Women are also nurtured and reared (or is it in their dna?) to take care of others. For many women, “no” is a dirty word. See how easy it can be for a woman to get in over her head without even realizing it?
The effects of stress are cumulative. This means that you do not get a fresh start at the beginning each day, rather, the effects add up and, over time, can lead to a whole host of problems.
Stress-related illnesses involve some of the following:
* More accidents due to lack of concentration of one thing at a time,
* Eating disorders like over-eating or not eating enough,
* Bowel disorders, irritable bowel syndrome
* Emotional disorders like depression, worry and anxiety,
* Asthma attacks,
* High blood pressure/strokes,
* Colds/infections because your immune system is not able to work as well,
* Backaches and shoulder aches from carrying around so much,
* Arthritis/immune disorders,
* Heart attacks/recovery,
* Sexual dysfunction. Most women are exhausted and find that they have no interest in sex which cascades into other problems in a relationship.
Here are 5 stress releasing and coping strategies for you to begin right now.
Determine your personal stressors.
What is/are providing the most stress in your life right now? What lingers in your mind as a concern, worry or unanswered question when you lay your head on your pillow at night? What task or relationship is hardest to handle? What wears you out the most?
Reorder your priorities and let go of all that you can.
List all of your jobs, tasks and responsibilities … including your own personal and mental health. Remember the saying when you start off on an airplane, “take out your own oxygen mask and apply it before applying it to others around you.” Make sure to put yourself at the top of the list. Cross off as many other jobs as you possibly can; while asking yourself questions like “Would anyone die or receive personal injury if I stopped or changed how I am doing this?” “Do I do this just because I would feel guilty if I did not do it?” and “How much am I affected by my perception of other’s thoughts or feelings of me?”
Find a different way to think about things.
The way that we think about things affects the way we feel about them. What you look for is what you get!
Think about things that you must do as a “challenge” or an “opportunity to learn” rather than a huge chore or a crisis. When you have more manageable thinking, your body responds much differently and you are able to deal with the experience without as many of the negative mind and body results.
Learn some stress-reducing techniques
Things like deep-breathing, meditation and relaxation tapes are all good. Talking with a friend on the phone, sitting quietly with a nice cup of tea alone or with a good book or taking a long bath are just a few of many different ones that can make a difference and help put you back on track.
Maintain healthy lifestyle habits.
Eat healthily, get a good night’s sleep, nurture your marriage and significant relationships, exercise and keep in touch with your doctor.
Above all, treat yourself and your body with love and respect. Women usually DO have a lot going on in their lives. A woman cannot be a great caregiver, lover, parent or friend if she has not cared for herself.