If you are addicted to tobacco, and quite content with the situation, it would be advisable to date only other smokers. You could both light up whenever you felt the need to do so, without having to fear an adverse reaction from your companion.
If however, you find yourself attracted to a non-smoker, and you would like to spend some time getting acquainted, go out on that first date, but be prepared to spend several hours without a cigarette.
Who knows, this could be your ideal mate, the person with whom you may spend the rest of your life. You do not want to risk making a bad impression, or giving offense during your first evening together. Stash the smokes in an inconspicuous space and forget them for several hours. Here’s why:
* Your date may be allergic to tobacco. You do not want to be the cause of an attack of itchy, watery eyes, sniffles, congestion, coughing spells, and possible hives. If you’re determined to smoke under these circumstances, it can be guaranteed that there will never be a second date.
* Smoking in the presence of a non-smoker shows utter disregard for their safety and well-being. It is well-known that smoking causes lung cancer, and a multitude of other health problems. Even if you ask, and receive your date’s permission to smoke, you are still revealing that your addiction takes precedence over your concern for their health. This will hardly be viewed as an endearing quality.
* Compulsive smoking shows a reckless attitude towards your own welfare. If you will not or cannot take responsibility for the maintenance of your own good health, you are hardly a likely candidate for becoming a stable permanent partner. No one wants to get involved in a situation which could lead to them becoming a widow or widower at an early age.
* If your date has hopes of becoming a parent at some future date, they will certainly not want to waste time dating a smoker. If the relationship were to become serious, someone would be hurt when the inevitable breakup occurred. No prospective parent would endanger the health of future children by living in the same house with a smoker.
* Consider for a minute all the adverse publicity cigarettes have received. Then mentally enumerate the aids presently available to help one quit: gum, patches, lozenges, prescription drugs, and support groups. What would you, as a disinterested bystander, think of someone who was still smoking? Chances are you would regard him or her as either being intellectually challenged or almost completely lacking in willpower and self-control. This is how you will be regarded if you smoke in front of your date.
* One last point, with the ever-escalating price of cigarettes, your date will wonder if you can afford to hold up your end of any possible future relationship. Unless you are independently wealthy, an expensive addiction like smoking could result in your future spouse having to carry more than their fair share of the financial burden of household expenses and other necessities.
Actually, all these arguments are unnecessary. Your date will know you smoke as soon as he or she gets within a foot of you. The cigarette smell clings tenaciously to your clothes, your hair, your car, and your home. You can’t notice it, neither can another smoker, but a non-smoker picks up the odor immediately, and it is not pleasant.
Consequently, it only makes sense to finish with the same premise with which we started: if you are addicted to tobacco, and quite content with the situation, it would be advisable to date only other smokers.