My cousin Stephie posed the question. Write about this, Lorraine. We want to know.
She expressed a curiosity common among women, whether they had the problem personally or not. What do I know, I said. What do you think, I wanted to know. I have no clue, Stephie admitted. Find out, why don’t you. Everybody wants to know.
Stephie sure does come up with intriguing questions! I owe her the best answers my research on the subject can uncover.
I began by postulating the answers, to be followed by research that might support the theory. My short list follows for why men cheat:
Things aren’t good at home;
Hormones (male, of course).
First stop in my research was the Internet. Search terms why, men, and cheat yielded several thousand hits. Applying Boolean logic to these terms anded with the term Tiger Woods sent this old computer into an infinite chug. Aborting the search, I took the cyber jam to mean that Tiger Woods is an embodiment of the answer to the question. Forgive me for coming to this conclusion, but I’m just an observer of public behavior and opinion.
Moving on, narrowing the search, and asking the question in a different way yielded two articles of interest. One entitled “Why Do Men Cheat on Their Wives” limited the quiery to married men while Stephie’s question was generic. Still, the answer was something less than curious: Cheating men have made a choice to cheat. Well, duh.
The piece went on to say that men know the cheating is wrong. I wonder how the author knows what the guys are thinking! I’m thinking the author is just out to snag the cheating guys on guilt and get them to go to the nearest house of worship asking God’s forgiveness. That sounds like a reasonable solution, but not an answer to the question at hand: Why do men cheat.
The second article listed the top ten reasons why men cheat. Of the ten reasons, four fell into my Things-Aren’t-Good-At-Home category, three into my Temptation category, one into my Opportunity category, and one was new: to get even. ‘Getting even’ wasn’t defined nor was ‘with whom’ or ‘with what’ provided. Thus, both articles told me nothing new.
Further research in the form of a query to friends yielded answers only from the gals. Despite answers from experience, responses from women were interpretive for the reasons why their men cheated. Answers described the hurt the women felt rather than the reasons for guys inflicting hurt by cheating.
So, we still don’t know ‘Why Do Men Cheat?’ There’s an assumption implicit in the question: that men do cheat. Does anyone want to challenge the assumption? Guys are mute on that point.
If the assumption stands, there’s a hypothesis on the table, consisting of four general reasons for why men cheat. The hypothesis is proposed by women, but what do we know? Step up to the plate, fellas, shed light on this infernal mystery and let us know. We promise-Girl Scouts’ honor-not to hold it against you or assume any personal innuendo. (And if you believe that, I have a bridge to sell you!)
Well, ladies, we might be in the Information Age, but why men cheat is something we may never know, or even if they really do.