Unschooling is certainly not for everyone, only you will be able to determine if it is a right fit for your family. Yet there are several key factors that will clue you in to whether unschooling may or may not work for you and your children. While it is a valid path to learning and lifestyle choices, it simply may not be a good option for you. Unschooling can and does work though, so how do you know if it will work for you or not?
Spouses- If you have a spouse who can not accept or understand unschooling and is not willing to give it a shot, then unschooling will not work. If that spouse happens to be an ex it can even get into legal implications if they decide to fight you and take you to court for what they feel is educational neglect. It takes both parents willing to give it a try, open up and understand unschooling. Without the support of your spouse or ex it can make unschooling out of the question.
Time- If you can not tolerate your children in large chunks of time, perhaps unschooling is not a very good option for you. Since unschooling relies on being heavily involved with your children you spend a good portion of your day in activities with your children. If this seems unimaginable to you, then perhaps it is not the choice for you.
Learning- If you only can see learning as a measurable unit obtained as in a public classroom setting through memory and tests and calculated grade appropriate curriculum, then unschooling will certainly fail. You have to get in the frame of open mindedness that learning is everywhere and learning is living, living is learning. If you can not get away from the classroom and textbook learning it will never have a chance to blow your mind away and will defiantly fail.
Trust- If you can not open up and learn to trust your children and trust that they will learn what they desire to learn, that they will learn what they need to when they are ready to then you will always be creating blocks to their unschooling success. When you do not trust in a natural child-led learning you always stand in the child’s way, only when you get out of their way, the process will flow and work!
Boring Life- If you thrive on doing the exact same thing every day at the exact same times you are use to doing things everyday then perhaps you should not consider an unschooling option. An interesting unschooling learning environment does not thrive in the mundane but on experiencing interesting new things. While many do follow routines in their days, they are still open to new opportunities and willing to follow those as they come up.
Respect- respecting your children is a must in the unschooling philosophy, this means you must really try to hear and meet their needs in a way that allows them to lead themselves into being who they are. Even if you only follow the unschool philosophy in areas of their academics and not all areas of living as radical unschoolers do. Respecting their interests, passions and learning choices is a must if unschooling is to work.
While this is not an extensive listing of items of concern while figuring out if unschooling will not work for your family, it does offer a few basics on helping you to make the decision. Without these few items as a base foundation there is no way in which unschooling can work for you. These few things must be the foundation into which an unschooling lifestyle can truly grow, blossom and thrive. It is not something everyone can nor should do and these points of thought hopefully will aide you in making a wise choice.