Should you call or text a girl after first date jitters wore off? Should you ask a guy out after a bad first date that might leave him wondering if you are interested? When should I call after a first date? Read on for answers to these and more post first date questions.
How to Act After a First Date
In a word: normal. If the date went reasonably well and a follow-up date has already been set up, it would be foolish to put on an act and cause the other person to fall in love with an image that is not you. Assuming that you transition into a dating relationship, it is now time to explore what makes the other person ‘tick’ and also freely divulge how you are wired. Psychology Today(1) refers to this as “the curiosity to investigate” how the other person will fit into your life and reciprocating by letting the other person discover this about you.
How to Ask a Guy Out after an Awkward First Date
Should you ask a guy out after a bad first date? It depends what made the date go awry. Nervousness makes it difficult to be yourself and if you believe that perhaps you put your worst foot forward, you should make the first move and propose a do-over date. Make it a humorous suggestion in the form of a Facebook or MySpace wall post, email or text message and see where things go.
This method is sufficiently public and impersonal to not make you look desperate, but it opens the door if he is still interested. If you do not hear back, assume that the date was sufficient to convince him that you and he would not be a good match. Let it go.
Should I Call or Text a Girl after a First Date?
Yes! Good manners dictate that you thank her for a nice (if things went well) or interesting (if things were a bit awkward) evening. If you want to pursue this dating relationship, now is the time to ask her out for a second date. Simply include “would you like to go out again?” in your text or conversation.
When Do I Follow Up After a First Date?
After a first date – what do you do? Follow the old adage to ‘strike while the iron is hot.’ Waiting 24 hours is acceptable; waiting until next week will make it look like you are not all that interested. If you think you found Mr. or Ms. Right, make some form of contact within that 24 hour window.
How About Buying Girls a Gift after a First Date?
Gifts are always nice, but sometimes they give a gal the idea that you are going just a bit too fast. A small token of your affection – like a single pink rose — is always appropriate while an ostentatious bouquet of red roses is going in the wrong direction.
Is There Anything I Should Avoid Doing?
Do not stalk your date on Facebook or MySpace; do not fill his email inbox with cutesy emails and do not send her hourly texts. Do not place the cart before the horse: a first date is the gateway to a deeper friendship and possible dating relationship; it is not followed by images of wedding cakes, bridal gowns and a trip to meet mom or your kids.
(1)Psychology Today. “The One Dating Trait of a Successful Future Mate” (accessed June 9, 2010)