Sometimes in life you get tossed a truly difficult problem to solve; one of those is what you should do if a boy is threatening your daughter. On the one hand, you’re the one that is supposed to protect her from harm; but on the other hand, if you do something to the boy yourself, you’re likely to land in jail. Fortunately for your sake and your daughter’s as well, there are other options.
If your daughter comes to you and tells you that a boy is threatening her, and you believe her, the first thing is to keep her home where she will be safe. Yes, she will miss school or other important things that might be going on, and it might even interfere with your life, or that of other family members; but threats from a boy who may or may not be serious, is nothing to take lightly. Keep her home, or better yet, bring her to where you work during the day in case the boy comes to your house while you are gone.
Then, once you have her safe, one of the first options of course, is to call the police; an action that should be taken only if your daughter is truly scared and if the boy has made some actual threats. Anything else will likely result in the police ignoring your requests for help, which is as it should be. You should only ever call the police when serious and/or illegal things are going on. But, even if calling the police, you need to be aware of the fact that there is only so much they can do. The odds are slim that the boy will confess to his threats, and unless there is other evidence, such as video or audio of the boy actually threatening her, the police won’t be able to do much more than warn the boy to stay away from your daughter. Clearly not what you’d hope for, and not what your daughter would hope for either.
Your next step is to contact the school to find out anything you can about the boy in question; such as does he have a history of violence or causing trouble. If so, you should try to find out what the school has done in the past to protect students from the boy in question or other boys who act in such ways. If you find out, that like a lot of other schools, your daughter’s school doesn’t do much, you might have to consider moving her to another school, or even another district.
Of course, such drastic action would depend on the age of your daughter and the boy in question, the likelihood of the boy actually doing something harmful to her, the boy’s reasons for threatening her, and how difficult it would be to move her to another school.
You always also have the option of talking with the boy and/or his parents if they are accessible. But if you choose this route, consider having the conversation on neutral territory since you don’t know how the parents will react. Sometimes parents of boys behaving badly are completely in the dark and are more than willing to help straighten things out; other times they get angry and refuse to speak to you anymore.
If the parents are helpful, you might be able to get the situation resolved right then and there; if not, you might have to consider moving your daughter, and in truly extreme cases, you might have to consider moving your entire family to a place very far away.
The thing to remember is, take what you daughter says seriously. Don’t blow her off, and don’t try to make it seem like it is less than it is. A lot of girls get hurt and killed every year by boys who were threatening them. Don’t let your daughter be one of them.