News sources are reporting that Mariah Carey will give birth to twins sometime soon (in 2011). [See, e.g., http://celebritybabies.people.com/]. And experienced parents know that the superstar is about to learn some super lessons. Having a baby in the house changes your lifestyle, and having twins doubles the change. Here’s what new mom Mariah Carey and dad Nick Cannon can expect to learn:
1. Surviving with less sleep. Having a newborn in the house is extremely disruptive to one’s sleep schedule. Yes, Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon will probably have some paid assistants (nurses, nannies, and the like), but they are also sure to get their full dose of sleeplessness. The first time you have a newborn, it feels like some strange psychological experience. If your baby is a light sleeper, you might wake up every hour or two all night long every night for several months. This can obviously take a toll on your body. I have been surprised, though, to learn how little sleep I need to get by. Other people might have a different experience, but I have learned to make it on far less than eight hours of sleep a night.
2. Unconditional love. This is the upside of having kids, and it is something special that Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon will experience together. Have a newborn baby is one of the few times in life when you will know that someone loves you completely unconditionally. The matter what kind of person you are or what you do in your life, your newborn baby will think you are the greatest person in the world. Chances are good that you will feel the same way about him or her. The connection between a baby and his parents, and especially its mother, his amazing.
3. Fear of danger. I was just reflecting the other day about the things that frighten me (e.g., heights). I cannot think of very many fears that I have that existed before I had children. Most of my fears today are about things that could happen to my kids. Other parents I’ve spoken with feel the same way. Chances are good that Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon will have the same nightmares the rest of us parents experience. At some deep biological level, when you have children you start to hear all the things that can happen to them. There are obvious reasons for this fear — without it or children would be more likely to be harmed.
Having children is life-changing, even for a superstar, and there is no question that these two twins are about to rock the world of Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon. But it will all be worthwhile. For me, I think being a parent has been more life-changing that being married. I cannot think of any event that has changed the person that I am more than the birth of my first child. And, as I reflect on it, I believe most of the changes have been for the better.