By now, most people have seen the almost-banned Lane Bryant television ad featuring a beautiful, plus-sized model in lingerie. Whether you prefer thick or thin, you have to admit that the ad was very sexy and the commercial was tasteful.
The television gods felt that being a big girl, the model had too much boobness for color TV. Yet, it’s OK to have half-naked women prancing around in their under-drawers in print ads and on television because they are Victoria’s Secret-sized?
Perhaps Victoria’s Secret is that a woman has to be built almost like a Na-vi Avatar to be sexy and television-friendly. Not many woman are almost 6 feet tall, 125 pounds and 36-24-36? While that may be considered the perfect womanly dimensions for advertising or Hollywood; in the real world, most women will never look like that nor aspire to look like that and most mortal men will never date or marry a woman that’s built like that. Those long, lanky, leggy, perky women are a rare breed, especially in America, where we’re collectively porking up nationally. When you hear the phrase on the news, “pork bellies are up”, are they referring to the stock market or the public?
Sexiness is not necessarily based on a person’s physical appearance alone. It’s a state of mind, a trait and a perception. Sexy is a theory of relativity and not an absolute. According to Merriam-Webster’s Online Dictionary, the definition of “sexy” is something that is “sexually suggestive or stimulating” or “generally attractive or interesting”.
I’ve been on both sides of this controversy. In my youth, I was 5’9-3/4″ and slim with an A-cup. I was no supermodel, but I was long, lean, lanky and leggy. Now, years later, I’m 5’9″ (I shrunk!), in the double-digits and have all of the perks and amenities that go with that size minus some of the perkiness.
Honestly, I’m happy with myself and feel sexier now and more confident. I like my extra-meatiness and dress appropriately while maintaining the sexy.
From a fashion and advertising perspective, I guess it would make sense to use models that are a standard size and on whom samples fit well and easily. Are supermodel-sized women sexy? Yes! Are plus-sized women sexy. Yes! The earth is big enough for all sizes and their admirers.
Sexy is a state of mind and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Some beholders want more to hold and others like less. So, the answer is that you can be supermodel-slim or plus-sized and still be sexy. It depends on how you view yourself and who’s looking at you.
My significant other thinks I’m sexy – meat and all – and that’s all that matters and guess what? I can shop in both Lane Bryant’s or Victoria’s Secret. Let’s see an advertising campaign that can cater to that!