If they ever issue an Oscar for Best Set of Guilt Issues, I’d win. Whether SAHM (stay-at-home-mom), WAHM (work-at-home-mom) and go to work mom, guilt is there. Do these words get you in the guilt bone: ‘Mommy, why can’t you play with me?’ Read on.
First of all, I want you to stop and take a breath. Whether you are a stay at home mom (SAHM), Work-at-home-mom (WAHM) or you go out to work, take a moment and pat yourself on the back. You work hard for those children. And you’re reading this because that monkey on your back named ‘guilt’ is always telling you what you ‘shoulda, woulda, coulda’ done. If you played all day with the kids you feel guilty because you should have gotten more work done. If you worked all day and had to say no to playing with the kids, that’s a big push on the guilt button. We women are conditioned to kick ourselves no matter what we do.
And it doesn’t help when thoughtless people say stupid things like ‘take a break from the computer’, ‘remember to make time for your kids’, ‘enjoy these times now because they don’t last’ or some other such saccharine platitude. Easy for them to say. They aren’t the ones trying to juggle a schedule and lifestyle that would make a saint tremble. Wouldn’t you just love to take a break more often? Wouldn’t you just love to say ‘money be damned, today I shall play’? Unfortunately those same little dears that we moms are advised to ‘make more time for’ need shoes, food, dental care, transportation, school supplies, medicine, the list goes on. And short of prostitution or dealing drugs, it’s difficult to make enough money to survive without spending a good deal of time and energy doing so.
When those little darlings look at you with liquid eyes that would melt granite and beg you to play, do so if you can, but work if you must. Trust your inner wisdom to know what’s best for everyone. Besides, some of the best, unscripted free play comes when mom is keeping a watchful eye, but not actively involved. It’s enough to know that mama is there if they need you. And that’s one very beautiful part of being a WAHM (work at home mom). You are there. For owies, kisses, hugs and to make sure that these precious creatures have the best care-giver possible. You. Just remember that with all that care-giving, you do some self-care taking too.
For more on the WAHM lifestyle, visit me at www.onlinewriterwahm.blogspot.com. For more on taking care of the kiddos, visit me at www.parentinghotline.blogspot.com. And for more on taking care of you, visit me at www.emotionalhealthhelp.blogspot.com and www.healthhelp4u.blogspot.com