It is difficult to understand why any woman would stay in a relationship that is filled with abuse. If you aren’t one of those women, there is no way that you could possibly understand it. For the women that suffer from the trauma of being abused, it is all too clear. In order to understand how you can help a woman who is in an abusive situation, you have to understand why she would choose to stay in a home filled with abuse. This will give you a closer look at how to convince her that life will never get any better as long as she stays there.
Here is why some women stay in abusive relationships:
Fear- Women stay in abusive relationships because they fear what might happen if they leave. They are afraid that their mate might come looking for them and kill them in the process. There is good reason for this fear. It happens nearly everyday. Women don’t want to be chased down and murdered by their partner so they stay in the relationship, all the while hoping that the abuse eventually changes. Unfortunately, staying can be more deadly than leaving. Tracy Thurman escaped with her life in the 1980’s but her abuse case was so severe that a movie was made about it. This is a true story about one woman who decided to leave.
Financial- Many women stay in an abusive relationship because they have no way of taking care of themselves and their children without their mate. Many abused women have been kept from working for this exact purpose. It is a control issue by that man to keep her from being able to afford to leave. Even when a woman does work and is being abused, she still fears that she won’t be able to afford to live without that second income.
Love- Abused women often stay with their abusers because they are in love. They don’t realize that what is happening to them is not considered love. It is control. The abuser wants control over them. However, abused women will stay with the abuser because they think that their love will eventually change the behavior of the abuser. This is very rarely, if ever the case, but love is blind.
No Place to go- Women who are suffering from abuse feel that they have no place to turn if they leave their abusive situation. It is important to let women know that there is a place to go if they are in an abusive situation. There are shelters for one. Family and friends are often open to allowing an abuse victim to stay with them for a time.
Abuse victims are terrified souls that have no idea how they are going to survive in the world without their partner. They are also afraid that if they don’t stay, they will be tracked down and hurt worse than they would have been had they just stayed where they were. It is a no win situation for some women, but that can be overcome. Women have to empower themselves but they need a little help along the way.