Online dating can be fun, annoying, exciting, and frustrating all in one fell swoop. It depends on the day, date, and experience of the individual user. It also depends on how truthful you are, and how truthful your dating partner is going to be. Love relationships can start online, even if you don’t start by telling the truth. Some of the lies we tell each other can be quite funny.
These are the top lies we tell and hear while in online dating sites.
1 My Web-cam doesn’t work
It’s an odd coincidence that every web-cam manufactured for users of online date sites, has malfunctioned. “I’m going to get it fixed next week.” Of course you’re not. Web-cams cost little and are disposable. If yours doesn’t work, you go buy a new one. It’s that simple. What you really mean is, “I’m too shy to show myself just yet.” That’s too bad. You will likely sell yourself a lot better on cam than in a few photos. Go ahead and open that web-cam and smile a lot. Laugh and be funny, and you’ll win over your date, even if you aren’t the America’s Next Top Model winner.
2 I don’t have any pics
This follows the same idea as the web-cam lie. You’re just shy; but do really expect to get a date without pics? Or maybe just that 1 really small photo? I think everyone has at least 100 vacation photos on their computer, and can easily upload a few of them. Why pretend that you only have 1? It’s ridiculous. Just show your best pics, but do show them.
This is just common practice, and I don’t completely frown upon it. If you just turned 40, then you really can get away with saying you’re 39. Why not? If you look and feel young, and if you can pass for 30-something, go ahead. However, don’t try to pass for 25 if you’re ten years older. It’s a silly way to get a first date. He or she may not ask for a second date, if there’s a huge gap in your ages. Or maybe she will! But why not state your age up front and give it a try?
Yes, I’ve been there. You meet your date, and think “did I misread the online profile?” No, your date just lied in the weight category. Shave off a few pounds or kilograms, but not 15 or 25. It’s a silly lie, but one so often told. I think it’s human nature to create the profile we want to be, instead of the read profile of our true selves. Internet dating is like creating a whole new secret personality. Just make sure you tell enough truth to get a date.
5 I’m just looking for fun
You say that you’re not looking for a serious relationship, but just looking for a fun date. Yes, that’s probably partly true. However, most people really are looking for the next serious boyfriend or girlfriend. They’re just cautious about scaring off any potential dates. Women are especially sensitive to this issue, and careful not to scare off their next new boyfriend. They figure if they have a few fun dates with him, they can move him into a relationship before he even knows it. That’s actually OK, since most guys do need a push in the right direction. This is a harmless fib.
“It’s up to you,” is also a common fib. You’ve been asked what kind of movie, food , etc. you like, and you say “up to you” even though you really have likes and dislikes. This is common, until we get to know our dates better. Just please, tell him you are allergic to shellfish before you get to the seafood buffet!