So, you’re at an age where you feel like you’re ready to date, huh? Well, I remember I started being interested in boys when I was about 10 or 11 years old, and I wanted to have boys over at the house when I was about 13, and I wanted to actually go out on dates when I already was an adult-around 18 or 19. I didn’t actually go out on a date until I was 21.
I was really early with things, but after I started to reach adulthood, all of a sudden I slowed down. I believe I was too young to have taken boys as seriously as I took them. I used to cry over boys when I was 13. My mom told me I was too young to cry over boys, but at the time, a felt like I was old enough. When I got around 16 years old, I looked back and said, “Damn, I was young. I would never cry over boys now.”
Before you get involved with boys, I want you to ask yourself a few questions….
1. Am I emotionally strong enough to handle dating? Just because you are attracted to boys/girls, doesn’t mean you should be dating. There is more to dating than attraction. Are you strong enough to handle the worst case scenario? What if they lie to you? What if they cheat on you? What if they deny being with you? What if they mistreat you? Can you handle that? If not, you may not want to start dating.
2. Are you interested in someone who’s mature enough for you? We tend to be interested in people who aren’t quite a good match for us. I always had a bad habit of choosing to date someone who was too immature for me. And they definitely caused me a lot of stress in the relationship. You are too young to be stressed out like that, so make sure you choose to date someone with a laid back and uplifting personality.
3. Do you have time to date? For those of you who have after school activities, you may find it hard to find time to spend with someone. If you have a busy schedule, you may have to squeeze that person in, and they may not like having a small amount of time to talk to you-especially girls. Girls always want their boyfriends to talk to them a lot. If you don’t have time, you may not want to date. Or you can just be upfront with the person. Tell them that you have a busy schedule and may not get to see them or talk to them as much as they would like you to.
4. Are both of you on the same page about sex? If you want to wait for sex, and the other person is ready to do it now, they may not be the right person to date. It’s important that the person you date has the same ideas about sex that you have. You don’t want to have sex when you’re not ready just because your partner wants you to, and you don’t want to convince someone who isn’t ready to do it because they may end up resenting you for it. Date someone who feels the same way you feel about sex.
5. Are your parents okay with it? I saved this one for last because it’s the most important. You are still under your parent’s roof, so what they think does matter. If you truly feel you are ready to date, you have to explain to your parents why you feel that way, and display responsibility to them. If you are irresponsible, there’s no way they are going to let you date! If they don’t want you to date, ask them why. If you feel they are wrong, then prove that you can handle dating. Chances are, your parents are right, though. If you think they are too over protective, read Stop Smothering Me! How To Deal With Overprotective Parents.
Just a couple of pointers: Don’t be like me and go boy crazy at a young age like I did. I did it because I had older sisters that had boyfriends, and I wanted to be like them. Act your age and embrace it. I know people always say this, but you will regret trying to grow up too fast. Love your youth. I look back at my childhood all the time and wish I could change things about it. If you try to grow up too fast, you will regret it later.
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