Most parents secretly want to be the “Cool Mom” or “Cool Dad”. They want to have a relationship with their child that other parents envy. The parents’ main concern is they want their own child to think of them as “cool” and to be a confidant for their child. Most importantly, parents do not want to have to sacrifice values for the status of being “cool”. How can parents be cool and still teach values? These tips will help parents be cool and keep their values.
First, do not TRY to be cool. You will lose all respect from your child. You are supposed to be an adult, a parent, so act like it. Do not try to be friends with your child’s friends. You are only supposed to be friends with your child. Be nice to the other kids, but make sure you are still the adult.
You should never wear clothes to try to “fit in” with your children’s friends. Again, you are an adult so you should be able to “fit in” without wearing tween’s or teen’s fashion. Do not talk about the clothes the children are wearing. Never let them know the clothes were in fashion when you were a child. They want to be “original” so let them think they are. Complimenting their choice in clothing is acceptable.
Always set limits or rules. Children need direction and they will respect you more if you have boundaries for them. When you have set the rules or limits define them so the children know what they are.
Make sure to have a summer schedule. Routine is a comfort zone for children. They like to know what is going to happen. In your schedule include daily fun. Have an activity everyday that your child will enjoy, even if it is playing outside.
To be the “coolest” parent, talk to your child. Get your child’s opinion on issues. If your child goes to the store with you, ask your child what he or she would like you to wear. Ask them what they think of what you like. My daughter, who is only seven, loves helping me shop. She actually picked out a cute outfit for me to wear. She is really good with matching clothes and “looks”.
Parent participation is also a great way to be the “coolest” parent ever. Do things that your child would like to do with you. Have your child tell you what he or she would like to do. Then, do it with them. Whether your toddler wants to color, or your tween wants to splash through the garden hose, make time to enjoy your child.
As long as you are there for your child, your child will eventually see how cool you truly are. Respect your child. Talk with your child. Most importantly spend time with your child. If you can do that, you are the coolest parent.