I am a mother of three. Not only am I just a mother of three, I am a young mother of three. I know there are thousands of other mothers out there who probably go through the same problems I do day by day. For those hundreds out there who think they are all alone in what they do, this is for you.
I love my children so much, as we all do. We can imagine our selves doing anything for them. This is true, we do a lot for our children, but they do a lot for us too. They bring joy and humor in our lives. You may be to the point of crying sometimes from the overwhelming stress, but read on and think about a few things.
I have an eight year old daughter, a five year old boy and two year old boy. You can imagine the times we have going anywhere especially to the super market. I believe everyone has probably gone through this story I’m about to tell you.
When my children have to use the restroom, we all usually go into the family stall, you know the over sized stall with a changing table or a little fold down seat with straps. I would love to hug the person who invented that one. I been in a family stall for so long that I feel claustrophobic in a regular stall now. Let me get on with my story and stop jabbering on now. First of all, anytime we are in a bathroom where another individual is having a bowel movement or going number 2, as my children sometimes say; the entire bathroom will know about it as soon as the funk from it hits there noses. It begins like this: “Ewe, Mommy, something stinks!” “Mommy, somebody farted!” “Mommy, what is that smell?!” Yes, you know what I’m talking about, we all been there. This is the embarrassing moment in which I can eventually laugh about later. This is a time when you wish your children have an “off” button, but they are just kids. This is adding a little joy in your day, believe it or not, okay read on.
I know you know about the automatic flushing toilets that are in Wal-Mart. Well, I hate them. I do not want to hug the person who came up with them. Let me explain. My eight year old daughter is scared of them. That’s what I said, my eight year old. You know how they have a false flush sometimes while you’re still on them? That is why she is scared of them. It used to be the toilet flushing and her flying off of it as if something bit her butt. Now I stand beside her and put my finger over the motion detector to keep the toilet from flushing. This is not embarrassing but very annoying. This is still quite humorous though to think that my daughter is scared of a toilet. I have to think though, someday she will remember Mommy loving her enough to hold her finger on a toilet to keep it from flushing her down the hole.
It’s just little things like this that keep you young with your children. I discovered you have to just go with the flow when you are with children, especially young ones. I already get those awe-full stare downs in the grocery store because I am not only young with three children but my children are mixed. Their father is African-American. I have to say, “Get over it people, this is 2010!” This just adds to the humor in my life to see and hear remarks people have on my personal business. Unfortunately, I can’t hide this from my children. They will hear racists remarks as they grow up, I hope this only makes them stronger as it has done to me.
Parents have to remember what it was like being a child. You may be telling your child to quiet down or stop running. They don’t know why so they don’t care most of the time. We have to remember that we are their teachers. They watch everything we do, good and bad. This is another way children help me. I try to keep them from seeing bad and mean coming from me. I choose not to curse a bad driver out because I don’t want my children thinking it’s okay to do so. I have to think they are just idiots driving or they have some very important reason for driving that way.
What I am trying to tell all parents out there, is that you will go through so many ups and downs as a parent. Your children may do wrong which doesn’t make you a bad parent. Children will make mistakes and learn from them. It is your responsibility to help them make less mistakes but when they do, make sure they understand why it was a mistake. Help your children grow but if you’re not growing with them in some kind of way, you need to step back and look at the situation. Children can teach you so much about life. They can bring you more love and joy than anyone else can give you. I hope this has helped some parent out there that may feel lost in what they are supposed to be doing. Keep on going, never give up and it is okay to ask for help.