The end of any relationship is hard. The length of time you are dating someone definitely indicates how bad of a sting it will be and how long it will take you to cope after it is really over. Men and women alike will often make mistakes after a breakup. If at all possible, a clean break from the relationship is what is best for everyone involved. The longer you prolong feelings and contact, the harder it will be on you. These are some things you should avoid doing after the breakup occurs to ensure you really do let it go.
Still Sleeping With The Ex: Both men and women are guilty of this. It is comfortable and familiar to sleep with him/her. This is a terrible idea! Sex usually brings emotional attachment with it. If you are really “broken up”, then prolonging false feelings of love and commitment will only bring even more heartbreak when he/she finds someone new. If you are really that horny, you should consider satisfying yourself. This will eliminate any further emotional and physical attachment you have to your ex.
Seeing Them To Return Their Belongings: This is alright if done promptly after a breakup (within a few days). If you are holding on to their stuff just for the sake of seeing them one last time, this is not healthy. If you cannot give their belongings to them within the initial time frame, it is a much better idea to mail them or fed ex them to their home. Seeing them will only make your feelings of hurt worse, and why would you want to put yourself through that anyways?
Texting Or Calling Them: This has to be the one that is most commonly done and probably by mostly women too. Best solution? Delete their number from your phone as soon as everything is said and done. If you continue to text and call, you are only making yourself look crazy and desperate. If things get heated again during a text or actual phone conversation, it can lead to worse things said than at the actual breakup “talk”. When your ex goes, so should their place in your phone.
Asking The Ex For “Closure”: Again, this is probably done by more women than men. Women are more emotional creatures than men, generally speaking anyways. Sometimes closure is not an option. Your ex isn’t required to give you a full blown explanation as to why he/she broke up with you. Whether the reasons were make clear when the relationship ended or not, it’s over. You just have to learn to accept it at face value and move on.
Trying To Be Friends: While sometimes this will work, most often it doesn’t end well. If you broke up on good terms from a mutual decision, the friends thing should work. If you were dumped, it probably won’t. Besides, why would you want to go through the pain of seeing your ex with someone else? It will be hard to avoid if you both have the same friends, and if that is the case just make sure you are cordial and polite.