Female college freshmen should know some things. Are you a young woman headed off to college for the first time? I’m a woman who lived on a college campus for four years. For the first four months of my freshman college year, I was 17 years old. However, I had no fear or anxieties.
The only thing I was concerned about was chemistry lab and calculus. Nevertheless, this didn’t mean I wasn’t aware of the many issues that other female college freshmen had. So here’s what a female college freshman should know:
-Doggone it, trust your instincts; instincts should trump “being nice” or “not wanting to be rude.” How many times have we heard about a woman who was sexually assaulted because she trusted a man too much and “didn’t want to seem rude”? You have a gut instinct for a reason. Trust it. When you sense danger, get out of there when you can.
-Carry pepper spray and master the act of getting at it so that, if you ever have to use it, you’ll be able to whip it out and spray faster than a man can assault you.
-The dangers of living on campus are exaggerated. Despite my first two things listed here that female college freshmen should know, I’d be lying if I said that campus dangers for women are not inflated. They are, big-time. The “campus rapist” idea gets well-circulated among naïve female college freshmen. Dangers of rapes occurring at parties by upperclassmen are exaggerated. In short, carry the pepper spray and trust your instinct, but don’t panic just because you find yourself about to walk home alone at night.
-Sign up for the campus martial arts club. A large college campus will offer several different martial arts clubs. I was in my college’s tang soo do club; don’t assume a campus martial arts club offers inferior training. This was one of the best martial arts schools I’ve ever attended!
-Don’t resign to the idea that you will fall victim to the “freshman 15.” Don’t reject the idea of walking to all your classes, either. I never once in my four years of college used the campus bus system. I walked everywhere; no car, no bike.
-Have the numbers for campus security and 911 on speed dial, and always have your cell phone on you.
-Don’t feel you must go to parties where there will be a ton of alcohol in order to make friends. You can make plenty of friends by joining a campus club of some sort, such as for a particular sport; a chess club; Scrabble club; walking club; swimming club, etc. It’s a myth that the only way to make friends is to attend parties where a lot of people will be drunk.
-Coming on to older guys can lead to trouble, as some upperclassmen prey on female freshmen. Don’t assume you won’t be able to find a compatible boyfriend your own age. But don’t assume a guy your own age can’t be a predator, either. See Rule No. 1.
-Don’t get drunk. I’m serious. In a drunken state, a woman is highly vulnerable to predators. Always have your wits about you; in other words, stay sober.
-Never leave your drink unattended; this way, nobody will be able to sneak a “date rape drug” in it.
-Avoid illegal drugs. No excuses.
-Know location of nearest hospital and walk-in clinics.
-If while entering or leaving the campus’s mental health center, you are approached by a gleeful, overly-cheerful person inviting you to some meeting, gathering or get-together, decline and don’t ask for more information; keep right on walking. Chances are, this person is a recruiter for a religious cult. They like to hang outside the campus mental health clinic, figuring that anybody coming or going is dealing with anxiety, loneliness, uncertainty, depression or some other mental issue that will make them highly suggestible to being lured by the cult’s recruiter.
-Learn a variety of ways to refuse sex. Once you lose your virginity, there’s no going back. It’s funny that I say this because the majority of today’s female college freshmen are probably not virgins. Nevertheless, virgin or not, don’t give yourself away.
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