As a doctor must first diagnosed a problem before they can offer the relief their patience seeks, so goes many things including relationships. Relationships are divided into two parts, emotional and material. The ability to have both is the true definition of finding ones “soul mate”. One can survive quite well with one or the other so not finding a “soul mate” is not the end of the world and then there are some who may experience a little bit of both which may not rank with the soul mate brand but still provide complete satisfaction.
When it comes to emotional, it is defined as the ability to mentally and physically support another through the good times and bad. To be available to them for moral support, guidance and a strong shoulder to lean on in our weakest moments. To not only listen to what the other is saying but to actually hear. To offer suggestions and constructive criticism as well as provide the necessary backing needed or even a silent yet attentive sounding board. The emotional ingredient for a good relationship can be in the form of a hug when they need it and the truth when they ask for it, answering the phone when they call or returning the call as soon as possible. Standing by them regardless of their faults but not enabling them to continue making the same mistakes.
When it comes to the material ingredient of a good relationship, this is manifested in one particular way. It is strictly financial and nothing more. It’s being able to help with another’s financial woes when they request it. Being able to present them with gifts on special occasions or just because. Being able to support their dreams when they do not have the means to do so and being able to assist them with ideas or suggestion to help them reach their financial goals.
It would be ideal if we all could met another who could provide us with ample servings of both but to many this may never be the case. Which of the two is best? That all depends on what is lacking from the person who looking. For one who may be already financially well-off, they may need more emotional than anything else, while the opposite may be true for someone who is already emotionally well-off. For many of us though, we may need plenty of both and if we are not lucky enough to find the plenty, we may have to settle for the adequate. No one will ever know just how many years it may take for anyone to find that “soul mate” and some may choose to continue to “go-it-alone” but either must be the sole choice of the seeker and not determined by being alone. Sometimes the lacking has more to do with the inability of your partner to deliver than it does with the willingness to do so. The very first thing that one should do before seeking a relationship is to discover which or how much of these parts that they will require or need. Having someone on your arm means nothing if that is the only connection.