Like most people I have had my share of people who have been rude to me over the years. I always seems to amaze me the way some people think they can behave towards other people. As I get older I become less tolerant of such behavior but I had many years of just walking away from it, which is usually the wise thing to do but sometimes the rudeness is just so great it is really hard to walk away.
Now my story of the rudest behavior I ever encountered happened about 12 years ago. Some people may think that perhaps I was in the wrong, but I think most will agree the ladies in the story went a bit too far.
Right after I had my second child I discovered a lump on one of my breasts. I was only 34 years old. The lump concerned my doctor enough that he sent me to get a mamogram. Because I was not even fully recovered from my C-Section yet and my husband had just started a new job my father drove me to the hospital to get the mamogram done. My dad also had to watch my two young children while I was waiting, my son was pretty much a newborn and my daughter was just under 2 years old.
Well I was placed in a gown and sent to a special waiting room waiting for my name to be called. I could not really leave that area as I might miss my name being called. At one point I was the only one in there waiting for my mamogram and there were two other ladies just sitting in there talking. I don’t really know why they were in this waiting room, I am fairly sure it was a patient waiting room just for women waiting to get mamograms. Anyways they are in there talking and I am all upset and worried about this lump. Then my dad kind of calls me from outside the waiting room. Apparently my new born son had dirtied his diaper and my dad did not feel comfortable changing him.
So I got my son and took him to the corner of the waiting room. I laid down a plastic pad on the ground and then covered that with another pad, so the ground was very well protected. I then proceeded to change my son’s diaper as any mother would. The whole thing was done very quickly and then I put the plastic pad and the other pad back in the diaper bag, then asked where the appropriate place would be to throw out the diaper, and threw it away in a bin outside of that waiting room.
Then the ladies proceeded to talk really loudly about how disgusting that was. Then they told a nurse to come in and told her to call maintenance to have them spray and disinfect the area, which maintenance worker did come and reluctanly did. I was so embarrassed and humiliated. These were women who did this surely they understood that babies diapers needed to be changed and I obviously could not leave the area in my gown. Not to mention I covered the ground with plastic and a special pad meant to catch anything that might have gone a mis, and the whole thing took less than 60 seconds and it was a newborn baby wieghing less than 9 lbs, how bad could it really be, and I had also found an appropriate place away from them to throw out the diaper. I was also all the way on the other side of the room in the corner of the room. Not to mention I don’t even know what they werer doing in that waiting room.
Their behavior has just always bothered me. I can understand maybe men being disgusted by it, but these were women and I would expect understanding more than ridicule for changing a baby. I can also see if I had just laid him down on th rug and changed him on the rug but I coverd the ground really well. The whole thing was so fast some people may not heve even noticed I was changing a baby but they made such a huge deal out of it and certainly made sure that they humiliated me at a time when I was already scared and upset.
The lump turned out to be nothing by the way.
Like I said some people may agree with these women, but I think they went a little too far. If they had an issue I think they could have asked me to do it somewhere else before I started or maybe even commented to me that they didn’t think it was appropriate but they went all out and made a big scene about the whole thing. In hindsite I could have asked them if they minded or I could have told someone that I had to leave for a moment to change my baby and then proceeded through the hospital in my gown with my butt hanging out to find a bathroom. But I think most moms don’t think much about it if our kids need changed we find a place to do it and do it.