There is a famous saying that, “Rudeness is the weak man’s imitation of strength.”
So when I had the opportunity to write about the rudest thing that has ever been done to me, I, clearly, remembered a situation that happened to me in Europe where this person was very rude, but looked extremely weak at the same time.
Everyday I teach people who work in the public relations sector, and they have told me that their relationship with journalists and writers is the main priority to having a good reputation with the public.
Even when these public relations representatives are in a bad mood because of work stress and personal problems, they told me that when a journalist or writer comes to see them for an interview, they must always be polite and never be rude. The point is that you should never make a writer angry or be rude to a writer, because it is guaranteed that you will be the topic in their next story.
Rudeness in Social Situations
In October 2009, I had just come back to Europe from my visit in Toronto. For some funny reason, when I return to Bratislava, there is always something that happens to remind me that this city is, strangely, cursed.
My best friend Brando decided to invite his friends and colleagues to his flat to have a house warming party and, of course, I came to see him and the others.
Everything was going well, until the moment when a woman from New Zealand arrived to the party, who knew his flat mate and a few other people. I had no idea who she was and this was the first time that I would be meeting her. She came into the party, said hello to everyone, and when she approached me, our friend Mill, was standing right next to me. I said hello to her and introduced myself and reached out to shake her hand.
At this moment, she didn’t say hello, looked at me with a very bad look in her eyes, and when I introduced myself again and had my hand out to shake hers, she gave me a very dirty look and walked away. At that moment, I felt so uncomfortable that someone would do that to me, and it had never happened to me ever in my life. So, instead, Mill shook my hand, because I felt awkward that my hand was still reaching out, and this woman had already walked away. For the rest of the evening, I did not speak to her and she always stayed on the opposite of the room, and she never came around me. Since, I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology and experience with dealing with people with mental illnesses and behavioral problems; I try to understand that people have problems with self-confidence, insecurities, and applying it effectively in social situations.
But, nonetheless, I was happy that this happened to me because I knew someday I would write about it.
How To Deal With Rude People
I told Brando about this incident with this woman from New Zealand a week after the party and he felt bad that I did not mention anything to him at that moment. But why would she be rude, he asked? He thought maybe she did not see me reach out to shake her hand. But I explained that someone else was there and saw the whole thing happen. I just thought that she hated me and some reasons for rudeness are classified as anti-social behavior.
There are ways to handle rudeness from anti-social people. According to Jennifer Maughan in the article Social Etiquette: Confronting Anti-social behaviors, “A tactic that works with some anti-social behavior is to overemphasize your own good, social behavior. By acting extremely kind and accommodating, the person can quickly see that they will not get a rise out of you. Your over-the-top social etiquette will be a direct contrast to their rudeness, and may even make the person step back and reassess the situation.”
Always remember, that in society, a lot of people are not aware of their own actions and that they do not value manners and social etiquette compared to people who are always dealing with the public and have business dealings. And to the rude people reading this, you should always remember that when you are rude, you may offend the wrong person. In this case, you never know who can take it to heart or write about it in their next article.