Yes, that’s right. Ashley Holmes is an undisciplined, spoiled brat. What leads me to say this? If you are a regular viewer of The Real Housewives of New Jersey, you know that Ashley was involved in a hair pulling incident with Danielle Staub. If you haven’t seen the episode in which Ashley yanked Danielle Staub’s weave, you can watch it online at Bravotv.com. You can also read about it here. Anyways, this is something that should have never happened. At first I thought that Ashley should be given the benefit of doubt, since she is immature. Now, I believe that Ashley should be held accountable for what she did and receive punishment. Whether or not Ashley Holmes deserves jail time, the jury is still out on that.
What leads me to such a harsh conclusion is mainly the fact that Ashley Holmes shows no real remorse for her actions. Ashley claims that she pulled Danielle Staub’s hair because she heard that Danielle hit her mother. She further stated that she did it to defend her mother. What a load of crap! Sneaking up on someone and causing unanticipated body harm is not defense. Ashley overreacted and did this because of all the tensions that built up over a period of a year or so. Ashley was pissed at Danielle and seized her opportunity to get back at her. Ashley Holmes doesn’t seem to take the situation that seriously. Ashley made fun of the situation, bragging about what she did on the internet. She won’t be laughing when she has to shell out serious money in legal fees or God forbid, spend time in jail. Once you get criminal record, it generally stay with you for the rest of your life.
Ashley’s parents are partly to blame, because this is behavior that starts in the home. Jacqueline Laurita, the mother of Ashley Holmes, admitted during the first season of the show that she spoiled Ashley. Jacqueline rationalizes that spoiling Ashley (by giving her what she wanted) was a way of compensating Ashley for a lack of parental attention. It was Jacqueline’s way of making up for not spending quality time with her when Ashley was a child. In essence, Jacqueline tried to be a friend rather than a parent to Ashley.
Another way that Ashley Holmes’s parents screwed up is not teaching her discipline. When a child does something wrong, parents are supposed to correct or punish the child right away. Otherwise, the child will not have a clear sense of right and wrong actions. Also, when parents let things slide, the children often times don’t realize that there are consequences to bad behavior.
I suspect that Jacqueline Laurita didn’t start proper training while Ashley was a young child. A parent can’t wait until their child becomes an adult to start teaching him or her the right way. Insolent and undisciplined children left untamed, sometimes grow up to be troubled adults with no boundaries. I don’t advocate child abuse or beatings, but there is nothing wrong with taking away privileges.
Parents shouldn’t reward bad behavior under any circumstances, since this transmits the wrong message. As a case in point, during an episode of the first season of The Real Housewives of New Jersey, Ashley was having problems with school. She was not doing very well, so what did Chris Laurita (Ashley’s stepfather) do? Chris bought her a new SUV!!! This is what I am talking about. Ashley’s parents have groomed her and set up her to be an unproductive citizen, with a sense of entitlement (example: Danielle Staub).
In another episode, Ashley got kicked out of her family’s home after an argument with her mother, Jacqueline. When Jacqueline turned her back, Ashley called her a b*tch. My parents are old school. They were of the philosophy that if a parent spares the rod, he or she spoils the child. If I had done something like that, I honestly don’t think I would be typing this article right now. Furthermore, if Jacqueline is a so-called b*tch, then that must make Ashley one, because she came from Jacqueline.
What Ashley doesn’t understand is that you can’t put your hands on someone just because you may dislike that person. The world just doesn’t work that way. It doesn’t matter what type of person we think Danielle Staub is. It doesn’t matter what Danielle Staub did in her past. It doesn’t justify what Ashley did. There are laws which we all must abide by to keep order in society.
Another concept that Ashley probably can’t wrap her immature mind around is retribution. There are people who will retaliate against you in some manner if they feel that they have been wronged by you. You can’t so much as step on a person’s foot or look at a person the wrong way, in these perilous times without worrying about getting shot. We live in a world of sick people and there is no getting around it. A person can instantly cut their lives short in one foolish move.
I understand Jacqueline Laurita’s anguish for her child. Nobody wants to see their kid caught up in legal chaos, but Ashley Holmes is an adult, now responsible for her actions. For Ashley’s sake, let’s hope that she realizes the error of her ways. Otherwise, she has a long, rough road ahead of her (if she’s blessed with long life). One day she may look back at this whole situation and feel ashamed of what she did. I wish Ashley Holmes “love and light” and would like to see her “stay in the positive.”