When we look at famous mistresses such as Rachel Uchitel, Alicia Keys, and most recently, Fantasia Barrino, you can’t help but ask yourself what exactly is going through a woman’s head when she decides that she is going to date a married man.
As moral as we would like to believe women are, obviously there is a part of us that isn’t all peaches and cream. We are all human, and are capable of some dirty things, but not everyone gives in to those urges. These mistresses give in to their urges, just as a married man gives in to his urges to cheat on his wife. We seem to expect that from men. Although we are always disappointed in men when they do these things, we still subconsciously expect them to do it. That is why we are more forgiving of cheating men than we are of mistresses.
No, it isn’t fair. There’s definitely a double standard. But my issue with the mistress is that they have the same naïve outlook on their relationship as many of us had when we were young and dumb. These mistresses think like sixteen year olds.
Don’t you like the classic argument, “Well, if you were doing what you were supposed to do, then he wouldn’t be coming to me!” Mistresses always say that don’t they? They really believe that a man is cheating on his wife because she isn’t treating him right. Granted, some women don’t treat their man right. But that is seldom the reason for a man cheating. Most men cheat because they can. It has nothing to do with being treated right.
These mistresses were on this earth long enough to know how men are. If they had any experiences with men, they should have known that men cheat on good women all the time. This is why they always come back pleading for forgiveness. They always want that woman back because they know they don’t want to lose her. These married men are willing to cheat on their wives, but notice very few of them actually leave their wife. Have these mistresses ever asked themselves, “Why won’t he leave his wife? If she’s such a witch, then why doesn’t he pack his things and move in with me? Why does he continue to stay with this monster if she’s making him so miserable?”
These married men know that their wives aren’t all that bad. He may be telling the truth when he says he and his wife have issues, but he is not admitting that the issues aren’t big enough to leave her for. These mistresses can’t seem to figure that out.
I never understood why women are so divided. We date men, and experience ups and downs, and we can relate to each other about those experiences. But the mistresses seem to be in another world. They cannot see eye to eye with the wife. They view the wife as their enemy, and don’t realize that she is a woman just like her. She has feelings just like her. They can’t see that. They are so head over heels for this man, that they are blind to the most obvious things. They can’t think about what they are doing, or the pain they are causing to the wife, the wife’s kids, and themselves! Mistresses have a sense of selfishness that I’ve only seen in cheating men.
As a woman, a mistress should be able to look at the wife and kids, and feel some type of sympathy. How can they not care about the well being of children? How can they not care that a man is leaving his wife and children to be with her? It reminds me of Mark Sanford’s mistress. He went to Argentina, and spent father’s day with her instead of with his children! I’m sure she knew he was going to come see her at that time. She didn’t have the decency to say, “Hey, Mark. I gotta good idea. How about spending father’s day with your children! How does that sound?”
These women are selfish, little spoiled brats. They don’t think about normal things that anyone with a brain would think about. Believe me, I think women should always consider their own feelings when they make decisions, but this is going beyond considering themselves. This is considering ONLY themselves.
And then, they have the nerve to think that these men won’t cheat on them. How can they think that? Obviously he’s capable of it! And who says he only has one mistress? You think they’ll just stop at one? I think Tiger Woods proved that one is not enough. They cheat on their wives, then they cheat on their mistress with another mistress! Scum bags…
I know these men are lying to these women, but they don’t lie about the most important part-they are married. They may say, “I’m unhappily married” or “I’m separated” or “We just filed for divorce”. Either way, he’s still acknowledging that he’s married! Doesn’t that mean anything in today’s society?
Women are always acting like we know the meaning of love, marriage, and relationships, yet some of us are so willing to break up someone else’s relationship! Obviously the only relationships we care about are our own. Marriage is only important if it’s our marriage. They couldn’t care less about someone else’s.
We’ve lost a lot of respect for marriages, maybe that’s why the divorce rate looks the way it does. Maybe the rest of the states need to take the kind of law of North Carolina, where you can actually sue the mistress! I think that’s a great law. Mistresses never think twice about what they are doing, maybe the idea of getting sued will scare them. Is sleeping with that man worth getting sued for? I don’t think so.
Other Associated Content articles you may be interested in:
Fantasia Barrino Attempts Suicide: Do You Feel Sorry for Her? After All, She is a Home Wrecker!
Alicia Keys is a Mistress: Why Do Women Still like Her?
The Mistress: Victim or Culprit?
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