Most married couples plan for, save for, and generally anticipate their yearly vacation as a chance to relax and have fun together. While separate vacations have some decidedly positive advantages, there are also some potential negatives that can arrive from spending vacation time apart. This article will discuss several disadvantages of married couples taking off in separate directions come vacation time.
Separate Trips May Indicate How Far The Couple Has Grown Apart. Many married couples drift apart for many years without even realizing it. The routine of day to day life can mask the growing issues between the couple. One of the partners voicing their desire spend vacation time alone and then thoroughly enjoying that time may indicate that the marriage is truly in trouble. At the very least, it will bring the problems to the surface and initiate action that may lead to divorce.
One Partner May Realize He Or She Does Not Miss The Other. The routine and predictability of a long marriage may lull both partners into a false sense of contentment. After spending a few days apart on separate vacations, the husband or wife may realize they truly don’t miss the other one. This fact may blindside the other partner and create a very hurtful situation. This may also be shocking and sad to the one on vacation alone, as he or she will need to make some very had decisions about the future.
One Or Both Partners May Miss The Other One So Much The Separate Trips Are Unendurable. On the flip side, married couples taking separate vacations may realize that the idea was better than the reality. After a day or so apart, the husband or wife may find that traveling alone is simply not as attractive as it initially seemed. While this may be a great indicator of how strong the marriage is, the separate trips may turn out to be a great waste of time and money.
The Husband Or Wife May Meet Someone New While On Separate Vacations. While I do not believe that affairs occur unless there was trouble already in the marriage, being away from home in a strange place may set up the scenario of one or both partners becoming attracted to someone else. This may just be one factor of a marriage eventually breaking up, the fact that there is enough space in a marriage for someone else to get in, can be heartbreaking for both husband and wife.
While there are many positives that can result from married couples taking time for themselves and embarking on a solitary adventure, there are also disadvantages to this situation. Facing and discussing the actualities of what separate vacations means to the present and future state of the marriage is the healthiest and best way for married couples to grow and evolve either together or eventually apart.