Here is a story scenario you can use to help teach about the need to be diplomatic with the other kids at school.
Section 4: Ted’s Use of Diplomacy Saved the Day
A. Teacher reads story to the class called “Ted’s Use of Diplomacy Saved the Day.”
B. Story Description: Ted asked to join the pick-up basketball game before school. When a jock named Matt refused to let him join, Ted went over to one of his friends and complainingly called Matt a name. That began a chain reaction where Ted got himself into hot water with a few kids at school. Will Ted manage to find a way to fix the problem before his day gets any worse?
Chapter 1: Ted Gets Himself into Hot Water with a Few Kids at School
Ted had been having the type of day where everything seemed to be going wrong. Before school, several of the guys got special permission to play basketball in the gym. It wasn’t an official game. They were simply shooting balls into the basket. Ted confidently walked up and asked, “Hey, may I join you?”
Matt, one of the jocks, responded, “Nah, we don’t need anybody else.”
Ted was so taken aback that he found himself whining, “Ah, come on, man. Let me play!”
Ted’s passive response of whining had no effect on the jock. Matt simply turned his back on Ted and shot a ball straight into the basket. Then Matt walked away.
Ted stood there for awhile, feeling stupid. Finally, he gave up and walked away. Sitting down, he turned to a nearby guy, David, and said, “What a jerk!”
David nodded sympathetically and changed the subject. Ted slowly stewed.
When Ted got to homeroom, he found that Ben was sitting in the seat where he normally liked to sit. It was the one by the computer. Ted had been counting on soothing his rattled nerves with a quick game of computer solitaire; however, Ben was already playing.
Ted ordered, “Let me play after you’re done!”
Ben mumbled something that sounded like he was agreeing to Ted’s request. Unfortunately, the bell rang before Ted could ever get his turn. Ted tried hard not to show that his feelings were hurt. He grabbed his books and walked out of the room. Getting to his locker, he slammed the door as hard as he could. This simple act of aggression served to make him feel a bit better in one sense but worse in another way. He tried to get himself under control before he walked into his first class of the day.
Between first period and second period, Christy walked by and giggled. Ted smilingly asked, “What’s so funny?”
Christy said, “I heard what they said about you. I can’t believe you would do something like that!”
Frowning with concern, Ted asked, “What? What did I supposedly do?”
With a giggle, Christy said, “They said you went into the girl’s bathroom.”
“I did not!” Ted yelled. “That’s a lie! You better tell them it’s a lie! I would never do such a stupid thing as that!”
Christy looked a little taken aback by his violent reaction. She said, “Hey! Don’t get so bent out of shape. I wasn’t the one who said it.”
Ted demanded, “Who did?”
Christy revealed, “It was Karen.”
Ted went stomping up to Karen. He snapped, “Hey, Karen. Why did you lie like that?”
Trying to look innocent, Karen asked, “Lie about what?”
Ted said, “Christy said that you said I went into the girl’s bathroom. What did you say a dumb thing like that for?”
Karen said, “Because of what you said about my brother.”
Ted asked, “What did I say?”
Karen said, “David said that you called my brother a jerk this morning. Well, no one calls my brother a name. So I was just getting revenge on you.”
Ted was so surprised that his words to a seemingly sympathetic friend had backfired on him this morning that he couldn’t think of a thing to say. He watched Karen go flouncing off to class and wished himself ten feet under the floor. Of course, nothing happened other than he was tardy to his next class. The teacher gave him a demerit slip. Ted took it and slumped into his seat, feeling like a truck had run over him. The morning had gone from bad to worse. What was he going to do now?
Chapter 2: Ted Takes Proactive Steps to Fix the Problem
Ted managed to make it through the rest of the morning with no further negative incidents, but he was still quite upset. Instead of eating lunch, he asked to talk to the guidance counselor.
After Ted told Mrs. Feelgood about the false rumor, the guidance counselor reminded him about the lessons in diplomacy that she had taught his class the previous quarter. Ted was skeptical about this working, but he was desperate enough to try anything that would get him out of this hole he had inadvertently dug for himself.
After they concluded their talk, Ted made it down to the cafeteria in time to catch Karen as she was taking back her tray.
Ted calmly asked, “Karen, may I talk to you for a moment?”
Surprised, Karen agreed. She said, “Sure.”
Ted calmly and politely said, “Look, I’m sorry that I called your brother a jerk this morning. I was disappointed that he would not let me play basketball and was simply taking out my frustration. I would appreciate it if you would not spread any further rumors about me that aren’t true and even better, tell the ones you told that rumor to that the rumor wasn’t true. Could you do that for me, please?”
Karen liked the fact that Ted wasn’t yelling or whining. He was talking quite reasonably. She asked, “Would you go apologize to my brother?”
Ted nodded his head and said, “Yeah, I can do that.”
Karen said, “Well, then, I can tell Christy and a couple of others that the rumor about you going into the girl’s bathroom was just a joke. I’m sorry if I caused you any trouble. I guess I’m pretty protective of my younger brother.”
Ted said, “I understand. Thanks, Karen. As soon as I see your brother, I’ll apologize. I guess I can catch up with him on the bus.”
Ted was feeling a bit calmer. He was quite surprised that using diplomacy on Karen was amazingly easy.
After school, he found Karen’s younger brother, Matt, about to get on the bus.
Ted said, “Uh, Matt. Can I have a moment of your time?”
Gruffly, Matt said, “What?”
Ted said, “Uh, I guess Karen must have told you what she heard I said about you.”
Matt said, “Yeah! She told me.”
Ted said, “Well, I want to apologize. I guess I wanted to play basketball so much this morning that I overreacted when you said no. Will you forgive me?”
Matt said, “Yeah, Ted, it’s okay.”
Then Ted used an ‘I Message’ and said, “Thanks, Matt. In the future, I’d really appreciate it if you would let me play next time. I’m really pretty good and I promise not to hog the ball.”
Matt said, “Okay, Ted. Since you put it that way, how can I refuse?!”
Ted smiled his thanks, boarded their bus, and then moved to take a seat. He noticed Matt go up to his older sister and speak to her quietly. They both turned around, smiled at him, and waved.
Ted sighed in relief and hoped that tomorrow would be a better day. He realized that using diplomacy was a really useful technique. It sure had helped to get him out of the jam that he had seemed to be stuck in. Ted planned to be much more careful with his words from now on.
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