I have been struggling with my daughter’s hair for the entire 9 years of her life. She is a beautiful biracial child who now has a head of curls to die for. It took me 9 years and a quick trip to the library to discover the simplest method to keep her curly hair curly. Before I discovered these secrets, my daughter dreaded the brushing and styling of her hair. No matter how it was put up at night, it always was a tangled, matted mess in the morning. Even on long car rides or sitting in a chair, her hair would be matted in the back. We tried oil, detangling spray, Pink Lotion, mousse, but nothing really helped. They only made her hair shiny and matted. Now, my daughter is in love with her hair and actually can fix it by herself and has gained so much self confidence that she said the first day that she needed a new outfit to go with her new hair!
The first thing I learned from this book, well maybe I knew it before but didn’t realize it until I read it, was that shampoo is for your scalp and not your hair. You do not have to shampoo every day. With my daughter, we never did shampoo everyday because of the fear of drying her hair out. The best thing is that you need only a basic shampoo and conditioner- separate bottles, NOT 2-in-1 containers.
The first day of the week is my daughter’s shampoo day. She washes and conditions her head in the shower. Then while the hair is still soaking, we apply a wash out moisturizing conditioner. Nothing too fancy as long as it is a wash out moisturizer. The trick here is that you don’t actually wash it out. You really leave it in! Saturate the hair with this conditioner. When a brush runs through it, it should have conditioner coming off in the brush.
After the tangles and knots are combed through (we actually use a special brush not a comb), separate the curls with your fingers. Starting at the root, work your way down the extra conditioned curl until you reach the tip. This separates and defines the curls. The hair is still sopping wet so once you can see curl definition, let the hair dry naturally. Do not use heat on the hair. This make take awhile depending on hair length and thickness. Once the hair is dry, you can pull it up in style or leave it hang down. I know for a fact now that these curls will not get matted in the car or sitting in a chair.
“Wow! This is great! I love these curls, but how do I keep them this way?” you may wonder. Well, another simple trick is the key. Every night put the hair in a bun or a braid before going to bed. This gets rid of the morning matted mess. When you awake, let the hair down and begin a simple daily styling regime that is so easy my 9 year old daughter does it each day. First, moisten the hair with a mist of water from a spray bottle. Next, take more of the wash out conditioner and run through the separate curls with your fingers. Each day that you do not wash your hair, you only need to use fingers as a comb. These curls stay separated enough to run your fingers through the hair nicely. Smooth another good size dollop through the hair until it is saturated making sure to focus on the ends. The ends of the hair tend to dry out so you want to keep those moisturized. After that, you can style up as usual and you are good to go!
The book I found regarding these wonderful tips contains so many more ideas on how to keep your hair curly including swimming time, camping out, etc. Refer below to the reference section for more information about this book.
Who would have thought the styling world could have came so easily to me after all this time! All because of a simple trip I made to the library. This has made our lives so much easier, and my daughter is more self reliant in the morning.
I would also like to note that this process should work for any curly hair. In the reference section, there is a website you can refer to and see other examples of this process.
LaFlesh, Teri. Curly Like Me. 2010.