Are you a soon to be bride who is feeling stressed out? If so you’re not alone. Most soon to be brides feel stressed to some degree. It’s understandable it’s a special time and you just want everything to be fabulous. However don’t allow feelings of stress to take control. Instead take action to manage your stress. To help understand what type of impact stress can have on a bride and what a bride can do to manage her stress, I have interviewed psychologist Dr. Diana Weiss-Wisdom.
Tell me a little bit about yourself.
“I am a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in private practice in Rancho Santa Fe, California. I have a bimonthly advice column in several community papers in North Coastal San Diego. The title of the advice column is ‘The Birds, the Bees, and Blended Families’. It’s about stepfamilies; remarriage, stepparenting and other great informative self help stuff. My new book, ‘Making the Most of Stepparenting’ should be released before the winter holidays. My book, ‘Stress and A Healthy Ticker’ is available through my website, Amazon.com or most bookstores.”
What are common things a bride to be stresses about?
According to Dr. Weiss-Wisdom, many brides stress about who and how many will be on the guest list. The next source of stress is selecting all of the details for that special day and wanting things to be perfect. For example, choosing the wedding dress, the bride’s maid’s dresses, venue, flowers, and other details. Determining how much money the details of the wedding will cost. The bride to be feels her wedding day is supposed to be the best, most special day of her life.
“Sometimes the bride to be may stress about is whether the groom is going to get cold feet or whether the bride and groom’s family members will get along.”
What type of impact can the bride’s level of stress have on planning her wedding?
“Many brides get physically ill from the built up stress before the wedding and end up being sick on their special day. The tension of the planning can end up in fights between the couple. If there is a lot of arguing, people get scared about the wedding and wonder if they are making the right decision.”
What types of stress management techniques can a bride to be use to reduce stress?
1. “Try to be organized with lists and delegate as much as you can.”
2. “Try and get as much done ahead of schedule as possible so there will be less of a last minute rush.”
3. “Remember to breathe! When we get anxious we tend to breathe shallow, which restricts our oxygen flow causing more anxiety.”
4. “Take good care of yourself while you are planning your wedding. For example, get involved in an exercise program that includes calming activities like yoga, pilates, meditative walks in nature, or quiet reflection time.”
5. “Keep a journal in which you remember what is most important – your health and your love.”
6. “Guard your mind against irrational negative, catastrophic thoughts.”
7. “Imagine your wedding going exactly the way you want it and practice the positive feeling that comes with that imagining.”
What advice would you like to leave for a bride to be who is stressing?
“You will blink your eyes twice and your wedding day will be over. Remember, try to enjoy every moment of the planning and celebrating. Your guests will have a good time if the bride and groom are having a good time. Rejoice the love you celebrate with your partner. That is what it is all about!!!”
Thank you to Dr. Diana for doing this interview on stress management techniques for the bride to be. If you would like more information about Dr. Diana Weiss Wisdom and her practice, check out her website at www.drdianaweiss-wisdom.com.
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