For many women, pregnancy can be an exciting, joyful time but for some, finding out they are pregnant can bring along many mixed emotions, particularly for single moms. While most women envision themselves married or in a stable, long-term relationship before they plan on having children, surprise pregnancies can and do happen. Here is a look at some tips for helping single moms-to-be going through a pregnancy without the support of a partner.
The most important step is to establish good prenatal care with a doctor who understands and is sensitive to your situation. A good doctor can give you great tips to steps you can take to take care of yourself and ensure that you have do everything you can to have a healthy pregnancy. In addition to this, they can also help you find additional resources such as single mom parenting classes and childbirth classes that can really prove to be helpful through the pregnancy and delivery.
Once you have established your prenatal care, do not be afraid to look for support. There are many single moms out there who are going through similar situations and sometimes even just finding an online support group is helpful because it gives you someone to talk to who understands what you are going through. There may also be local groups and meetings that will help.
If you have family and friends nearby who want to help, let them. It can be tempting to try to do everything on your own especially if you feel as though you do not want to bother people or if you are trying to establish your independence as a single parent but generally, if someone offers to help, they truly want to. Have your mom or aunt come along to your doctors appointments or if they want to be there during delivery and you are comfortable with it, see if they would like to go to childbirth classes with you. This support will be crucial especially after you give birth.
Making a long-term plan for what you would like to do is also helpful for single moms-to-be. If you are working make plans for what you would like to do in terms of childcare and see what sort of options you have available to you. The more you have done and accomplished, the better you will feel after you have given birth. Long-term goals are also great to make because they give you something to work towards. This can include plans of getting a bigger place to live to planning your first vacation or trip away with your new baby.
Lastly, do something special just for you and your baby on the way. This may include getting a special gift for your baby just from you to decorating the nursery. This is a great way to help boost excitement about the upcoming birth and is something you and your child can look back together on fondly through the years.
Sources Cited: My own personal experiences.