Dating is so hard in this era of Internet dating, Twittering and Facebook.
You may dread going on dates when your date is snapping photos to post on Facebook or texting before the appetizer arrives.
It can also be hard to even get a date with the man of your desires even if you are pretty. That’s because the competition has changed. Here are six reasons dating is so hard and what you can do about if you are having a hard time getting dates with the right men.
No 1: Reason dating is so hard: Dating is hard because men are meeting old flames from high school and college on Facebook. It used to be men would only reunite with old girlfriends at their high school reunions.
If you are having a hard time getting dates because of this issue you should: As Bugs Bunny used to say, “If you can’t beat them, join them.” Start going on dates with men you used to know from high school, college or a former career. The only rule is don’t date a married man!
No. 2: Reason dating is so hard: Dating is hard because people aren’t taking the time to get to know prospective dates. For example, how well can you get to know a person you met speed dating?
If you are having a hard time getting dates because of this issue you should: Stop speed dating. Instead, try going on a double date. Join clubs or a bowling league that allows you time for more in-depth conversation.
No. 3: Reason dating is so hard: Dating is hard because there are rules at the office about dating co-workers or you are afraid about causing drama at work.
If you are having a hard time getting dates because of this issue you should: Take a chance. I met my husband through work. We simply kept our relationship professional at work – as should anyone who is going on dates with a co-worker.
No. 4: Reason dating is so hard: Dating is hard because a lot of people don’t attend a house of worship anymore. People used to meet their boyfriends through their religion.
If you are having a hard time getting dates because of this issue you should: Visit several different houses of worship within your faith. Join the religious social clubs or groups and don’t be afraid to ask older women to set you up. My mom met my dad’s mom at church, and she set them up on a blind date!
No. 5: Reason dating is so hard: Dating is hard because people are particular about other people’s baggage.
If you are having a hard time getting dates because of this issue you should: Be honest about whether you are a widow, divorced, have children. If the man has a negative attitude about your past, don’t go on a second date. Better still, date men who already know about your “baggage.”
No. 6: Reason dating is so hard: Dating is hard because all the good men are taken. At least, that’s what women have been telling themselves for centuries.
If you are having a hard time getting dates because of this issue you should: Shift your attitude. All the good men aren’t taken. You aren’t going on dates to find a lot of good men – just one who is right for you.
Look at dating like shopping – when you find the right outfit you just know. But you don’t regret the time you spent looking!
