You are a cool person and know what you want. You deserve a kind, respectful amazing person to add that extra sunshine to your happy life. So why are you feeling amiss? Here are warning signs your leading lady or man is not a keeper.
1. They don’t keep their commitments in the little ways. If your sweetie isn’t keeping smaller promises i.e., ‘I’ll call you when I arrive at ___’ or ‘we’re going on a date ___’ then how do you expect them to keep the big ones? Big commitments such as being faithful, financially/emotionally dependable and married all stem from the ability to keep smaller ones. I’m not saying to be harsh things happens once in a while, or even if your partner just has a habit with a certain thing [like being prompt calling back or being forgetful] but watch out if it’s a major pattern that shows lack of concern.
2. He/she doesn’t make time for you. This is an obvious. If they’re constantly too busy to spend time with you but still have time for friends, TV, video games or other things outside of work or school your relationship is in trouble. Although it isn’t healthy to spend every waking second together doing everything, the other extreme is also not good. The whole point of being in a relationship is committing your time and your heart to that person, above all others. It brings great enjoyment and comfort to grow close with a person. If one doesn’t have time to commit to a relationship, or doesn’t have a desire to spend time with their partner, they are only using the ‘commitment’ to keep him or her from seeing others. It is selfish and unfair.
3. You aren’t a better person or you don’t like yourself. When you are with the right person, they will inspire you to be the best ‘you’ possible. Does this mean you will always be at your best? Absolutely not! However, if you find yourself constantly feeling like they are causing you to develop habits that drag you down, this probably isn’t the person for you. Your partner should help bring you up when you’re down and when your esteem is low, remind you what a capable, awesome individual you are. You can’t have someone who will belittle or make you feel like you aren’t worth that much.
4. They aren’t honest with you. If your partner lies to you, even in little ways, it means they are capable of (and likely to use) bigger deceptions. You need to have openness at all times. It is how you start a good foundation for your relationship and how you keep an awesome one lasting forever.
5. Telling you how to look. Ok, so we all could use a little constructive criticism, but there is a line. If your man or woman is focusing too much on your appearance then they need to stop. This is a gray area, because some people just try to be helpful. But, if you have told them to stop and you like the way that you look it’s time to rethink things. Men should never be made to feel bad if their hair is falling out and women for the way their breasts look and etcetera. We are all born a certain way, and if your partner loves you truly, they love you for who you are and the way you look.
6. Blaming you for their problems. This is something that happens sometimes, because when we’re stressed a lot of us tend to vent or let it out on our partner somewhat. However, if it’s excessive or they blame you for everything that just isn’t right. There is probably no greater sign of immaturity than someone who won’t take responsibility for their own issues.
7. Not having their own life. You need a partner with their own interests. There have to be some things that set you apart. It is wonderful if you two have many things in common, but be sure there are still things you each enjoy separately. He needs guy nights, she needs girl nights. If your partner is trying to be in on every little thing you do, you need to gently let them know you each have your own ‘things’ you do separately. If they can’t respect that, they need to move on!