It is unfortunate that many teenage girls choose to engage in sexual activity before they are mentally, physically and emotionally ready but it is a fact. Despite the ongoing effort to promote abstinence, far too many young females enter into sexual relationships before they should. Hopefully most will at least choose to confide in a parent about the decision to become sexually active. If your teenage daughter expresses that she has become or will soon become sexually active and that she would like you to make a form of birth control available to her, should you tell your husband or keep this matter private? This article will offer some points to consider before making that decision.
Most Fathers Have Difficulty Accepting That Their Daughters Are Growing Up. While it is generally uncomfortable for parents to realize the fact that their children will eventually become sexual beings, it is especially difficult for fathers to see their daughters as anything but their little girls. While you may not like the fact that your daughter is eighteen and has decided to take her long term relationship to the next level, your husband may find it extremely difficult and emotionally painful to realize that his daughter has entered a new phase of her life. If you wish to spare him these painful feelings you may choose to keep this information confidential.
Your Daughter May Find This Embarrassing. While your teenage daughter may feel comfortable sharing this information with her mother, she may find the idea of her male parent being privy to this information mortifying. If your daughter can not bear the idea that her father is aware of her decision to become sexually active, you may choose to quietly provide your daughter with birth control and keep this between the two of you. If you are not exceptionally upset or conflicted about the idea of your daughter becoming sexually active and are feeling positive about the fact that she chose to come to you for guidance and support, you may feel that you should respect her feelings about keeping the matter from her father.
Keeping A Secret Of This Importance Causes You To Feel Uncomfortable. If you and your husband have always discussed important matters about your children together and you feel that it would be disrespectful to your partner to keep this a secret, you should certainly make him aware of your daughter’s request. Many wives feel that everything about the children should be discussed openly and honestly while others feel that keeping confidences at their children’s requests is more crucial to keeping harmony within the household. If you feel that not discussing this with your husband will cause you to feel as though you were keeping a secret from him and that will ultimately cause stress in the marriage, you should certainly tell him, but let your daughter know that you simply don’t feel right in keeping this from her father and that you intend on discussing it with him.
Your Daughter May Feel More Comfortable In Receiving Advice On Matters Of The Heart From Her Male Parent. No parents or child wants to engage in an inappropriate or graphic discussion about romantic relationships, however, having the issue of a teenage daughter’s involvement in a more serious relationship becoming open may allow for a closer relationship between father and daughter. A father’s personal knowledge of how young males think and react to situations can be invaluable to a young female. If a teenage daughter does not feel as though she needs to hide the seriousness of her romantic relationship from her father, she may feel more open to accepting advice and guidance from her father on matters of the heart. Discussing the male perspective on relationships with her father may help your teenage daughter conduct herself with dignity and pride no matter what the situation. A young girl’s biggest male champion should always be her father and his acceptance of her developing maturity may bring them closer than ever before.