Father’s Day is quickly approaching and you may not yet have your plans set in stone. If you have a husband, father and a father in law to think about, you know how difficult it can be to please everyone and still enjoy the day yourself. Before picking up the phone and including both your father and father in law in your holiday festivities, read this article to see what can go right and what can go very wrong.
Does Your Father And Father In Law Get Along? Many gals are lucky in that both sides of the family get along well and there is usually no problem when all gathering together for a holiday. If both your father and father in law generally get along well and seem to enjoy each other’s company when spending time together, you should certainly invite both fathers to spend the day together with you and your family. However, if the two dads mix like oil and water and the less time spent together the better, everyone would be better suited to celebrating Father’s Day separately.
Is Your Time Very Limited On Father’s Day Weekend? If you have other obligations that need to be met during Father’s Day weekend and you simply can’t attend two different holiday functions, ask your parents and your in laws if you can spend the day as a large extended group this year. Combining both extended families for one big holiday celebration can remove the usual stress that comes with trying to spread yourself too thin for Father’s Day.
The Children Will Get To Spend Equal And Ample Time With Both Grandfathers On Father’s Day. When trying to spend an equal amount of time with both grandparents, often one or both sides gets slighted. In an effort to be fair to both sides of the family, the children often spend most of a holiday in the car. Having both sets of grandparents in one place for Father’s Day ensures that the children will get to spend tons of time with both grandfathers, and you will be able to spend uninterrupted time with both your father and father in law.
Changing Holiday Traditions Does Not Go Over Big With Your Parents Or Your In laws. If you have tried in the past to tweak certain family traditions and it has been met with resistance by your elders, you may not be inclined to suggest having a combined Father’s Day celebration. If you have always spent Father’s Day at your parent’s house enjoying a barbecue and you suddenly decide that you want to have both fathers to your house for an early brunch, you may encounter hurt feelings and a reluctance to make any adjustments to the old way of doing things.
Does Your Husband Have Strong Feelings About How He Wants To Spend Father’s Day? Getting married and having children of your own brings forth many changes to the dynamic of the extended family. Your spouse’s feelings and desires should always be taken into consideration and parents and in laws should be open and understanding enough to accept them. If your husband feels that he wants both sides of the family to celebrate together, thus enabling him to relax and enjoy the day as well, you should most definitely consider having a large gathering that includes all the Dads.
A New Father’s Day Tradition Bring Both Families Closer. If both sides of the family have only had limited opportunity to spend time together, sharing the holiday will certainly offer a chance for both father and father in law to really talk and get to know each other in a festive and relaxed atmosphere. Shared experiences with loved ones are the best way to forge new relationships and strengthen old ones. This lovely new way of spending the Father’s Day holiday will surely create happy memories for all and just may become the new family tradition.