The majority of personal problems come from within due to poor thinking habits. Once a person has mastered the following self-improvement items it will be easier to reduce stress and feel happier. Before starting to make changes, remember that positive changes always require honest, self-directed efforts.
Top 10 Self-Improvement Items to Reduce Stress & Increase Happiness
– Let go of the past. Holding onto past mistakes, frustrations, and anger only hurts you in the present moment. Forgive and move onto living in the present. How can you expect to have a great future if you don’t get rid of past pain? If someone hurt you badly and you’re still living with the pain it’s time to forgive that person. Even if you only forgive the person for yourself it will allow you to start living a better life. Life is too short to keep living in your own prison simply because you have not let go of the past. Set yourself free today by making a decision to do whatever it takes to start living in the present moment. Create your own destiny and focus on getting what you want out of life. You really are in control, so start acting that way by letting go of the past.
– Don’t take things personally. Quit assuming others are talking about you when they’re not.
– Quit jumping to conclusions. Assuming and acting on what you think is going to happen might make your actions look unintelligent later on.
– Emotions aren’t always reliable. Sometimes emotions (especially extreme emotions) are caused from being tired, hungry, or becoming sick. Don’t let negative emotions control your life. Learn to be aware of your feelings to prevent destructive emotional reactions. Take a second or two to think about how you really want to react. At the same time, negative emotions/experiences should not be repressed. They need to be dealt with openly and honestly to build mental health and have a happy life. Simply deal with them appropriately in ways that do not hurt others.
– Stop dramatizing. Treating small setbacks as if they’re major disasters causes unnecessary anxiety. Don’t add drama to every tiny thing that happens. You’re only creating extra stress which will decrease your quality of life.
– Don’t over-generalize situations. Life will sometimes throw a bad event at you, possibly several at once. They’re only temporary and don’t last forever. An accident might change your life, but it doesn’t mean you still can’t have a great life. Get through the bad times and move back on track to your great life.
– Stop making up rules and nagging. Inventing should-have or should-do thought processes for yourself and others are usually unnecessary. Don’t restrict others or yourself. For example, don’t tell others how they should live their life. Don’t get mad at others or place your time restrictions on them for doing certain tasks. If the grass needs to be mowed before your party next week, it’s not critical for it to be done today. Nagging is extremely annoying and very habit-forming. If someone needs a reminder about doing a task limit yourself to saying only 1-3 words in a neutral tone (such as ‘grocery store bread’). Be more flexible and remember to treat others how you want to be treated.
– Don’t be a perfectionist. This only destroys your life and sends you searching for what can never be attained.
– Work on being optimistic. The law of attraction says we attract what we think. It’s true especially when you constantly have negative thoughts. Immediately stop expecting bad things will happen! You are only attracting more negativity when you think that way. Focus on only positive things for a full week and you’ll start noticing even more positive things in your life.
– Avoid stereotyping people and situations. Limited thinking denies you of seeing the real person or situation. Society incorrectly labels people based upon skills, job, and where a person lives. Don’t fall into the trap of believing society is right. Farmers make less money than actors, but are far more valuable since they feed the world.
Busy lives can quickly increase stress levels which significantly diminishes a person’s quality of life. By allowing negative influences (including stress) to impact your life, you lose control of how you really want to live. The actions you choose on a daily basis play an important part in how happy you are throughout life. How do you act in certain situations? Reacting negatively only hurts yourself and those around you. Making a conscious effort over a second or two to decide how you will act to a situation can reduce stress, improve your life, and also make those around you happier. Every person has full power to control how to react. Emotions play a huge part in emergencies. But learning to react in a more positive way with smaller situations will make you a stronger person when emergencies arrive.
When working on self-improvement try to focus on one or two changes at a time. Expecting major results in a short period of time is not realistic for many people. Have patience, do not give up, and feel good about the small changes you make daily. Life is a journey combined of challenges and successes.