So your BFF is getting married. Of course, naturally, you get the phone call that she wants YOU (after all, you are the BFF) to be a bridesmaid. So now your BFF is the bride-to-be and you are the shoulder to lean on, the fingers that sew, the tissue holder, the support system, the organizer, the lifeline, oh and the bridesmaid. So, how do you juggle it all? Simple. You follow these rules.
1. Remember that the bride (whether she has turned into the worst version of herself or remains the BFF you always knew and loved) is always right. This is her most perfect day and darn it, it is your job to make sure that she realizes that…no matter what!
2. Keep everyone in the loop. As the bride is making decisions and trying to imagine the perfection of her wedding day into a reality (not to mention taking care of the future hubby’s needs, sticking to the weight loss program so the dress will fit, making sure her mother is helping and someone is writing the checks…) you can make sure that the entire wedding party (parents included) know what is going on on your end. Did Mom choose her dress? Check. Did Dad send the deposit for the flowers? Check. Get your own list of “to dos” for the wedding and start marking things off. This is also easily done when speaking with the bride-to-be. She may know some of the ins and outs of the wedding without realizing they have been handled. She also may need some extra help with making sure those pesky groomsmen are taking care of their part of the deal. So jump in!
3. Offer. That’s right. Offer to lend a hand with anything and everything. If the bride needs a hand choosing flowers, sewing sachets, trying out favors, or writing on place cards – well, you are her gal! So step up and do it. She will be grateful for the help when she needs it and, at times, the groom may just enjoy a little time sans wedding planning!
4. Talk to Mom. So first, we remember that the bride is right and we are all about her, but keep in mind that Mom is letting go of her little girl here. So call Mom. See how involved she wants to be, what ideas she has, and how she can help. She has obviously been down this road before and knows the ropes first hand. Plus her input could produce a beautiful heirloom from great great grandma that bride-to-be didn’t know exists.
5. You have duties of your own too, so don’t neglect them. Typically, it is your job to take care of the bridal shower and bachelorette party. Get the other girls in line and take care of business. The who, what, when where, and how to pull this thing off is a big deal for everyone involved, so hop to it.
6. Do it all with a smile. No, it isn’t easy being the go-to gal, but it is easy seeing your BFF so happy. So keep in mind, right now you are doing everything in your power to make this day perfect for her and someday (if she hasn’t already) she will do the same thing for you.
With these simple rules, you are well on your way to helping that stressed out BFF be the most beautiful bride… and hopefully get a chance to dance with that really cute groomsman across the room!