Text messages aren’t going away anytime soon. USA Today reported in 2006 that 7.3 billion text messages flew across digital networks in June of 2005, and that was five years ago. Imagine that figure now with Tweets becoming such an ingrained part of contemporary American life. The article also stated that men like texting in relationships more than women because it prevents messy confrontations. Therein lies the dilemma as to whether a text message can help or hinder a relationship.
So you found your date via text message but how appropriate is it to keep up the romance through text messages? Is it still better to get real roses instead of a cute picture of a bouquet over your SMS system? Texting is a relatively new form of communication that can both hurt and heal a romance. Here are some tips and reasons why texting is both a boon and a bane to lovebirds in a modern age.
Text messaging is a great way to keep in touch. When neither of you have the time nor the place to talk on the phone directly such as each other’s workplaces then a quick text hit while you are on lunch while she is still at the desk is entirely appropriately. Little reminders of love through text aren’t a big deal.
If you’ve already flirted with each other, kissed each other, and done other firsts in romances, then adding to that which has already occurred are gentle reminders of why you two are together in the first place. “Dinner tonight at 7, right?” should be some information that has been spoken of before that text message was sent as opposed to being something new between the both of you.
When big events happen in relationships such as asking someone out, flirting, talking about how someone is feeling, or even breaking up that should occur at least verbally if not face to face. Texting should not be the basis of a relationship nor is it the mainstream form of communication between couple involved in romance. You’re dating a person, not their iPhone.
While texting dos and don’ts in a relationship may be understood already, if either of you feel that text messaging is getting out of hand it is time to put down the phone and have a frank and up front conversation with your love. Set the boundaries as you see them and compromise on what can be worked out between you.
A good rule of thumb would be “do I really want to be told this through a text message?” If you don’t think you’d want for the first time that someone loves you through the glowing light of your cell phone then you probably shouldn’t text in that way. There should be no surprises when you text someone a message.
In the end a good balance should be struck as texting can help you stay in touch with your partner but don’t rely on it to convey important messages to each other such as critical information pertaining to major relationship issues like feelings, meetings, and signs of affection. Text with care and enjoy the fruits and benefits of text messages between you and your mate.