Recovery and Resiliency that rocks is getting into a recovery that is solid, durable and long-lasting; a recovery that is also able to roll with the punches that life passes out.
Our recovery needs to be strong and overpowering, like a hard rock song.
Think of how some songs are fragile, light and delicate. These songs are easily muted or drowned. Our recovery can be like that, kinda like a wave comes along and it just washes us over. I used to be in a fragile recovery. I was in recovery, but I lived in fear that something might go wrong., When I was in a light or fragile recovery it seemed as if anything that went a little wrong would knock me out of recovery. I ended up trying to live my life by standing in just this one little spot. I wanted and tried to bargain for wellness. I said, “OK, I’m in recovery, just don’t let anything happen to me and I will be able to stay in recovery.” And that didn’t work real well for me. Something always ended up going wrong.
Songs and recovery that are fragile, are beautiful and useful, but they aren’t necessarily what we want when we think about recovery. For a long time I felt like when I looked at my recovery, it was a piece of delicate lace. It was so beautiful, but it wasn’t much protection.
Hard rock songs are strong, loud and often vibrant. It’s hard to drown out a hard rock song. The music is overpowering, even when distractions occur. We want our recovery to be like that. We want our recovery to be stronger than what life throws at us.
We don’t want our recovery to be overpowered by situations that happen or expectations that aren’t met.
The thoughts behind Recovery that Rocks are loosely based on the title of the Beetles song, “Think For Yourself”. That song is from the Beetles Rubber Sole album and was written by George Harrison. Song info was found in the book “A Hard Days Write, by Steve Turner.
The song title “Think For Yourself”, says a lot about what we need to do to help us stay in recovery. We need to think for ourselves and decide what we want.
Thinking for yourself is taking more control of your life, learning what you want to do and then finding a way to do it. Thinking for ourself and deciding what we want is what person-centered planning is all about. It’s what self-determination is all about. And it’s certainly what recovery and resiliency is all about.
Actually, it’s interesting because the song “Think for Yourself” was written about don’t let yourself be lied to. George Harrison wrote it about having a woman lie to him.
I think it’s more important that we don’t lie to ourselves. Sometimes we lie to ourselves when we say that we can’t. And sometimes we lie to ourselves when we give our power to others.
Power and recovery that rocks are strongly linked together. Remember that fragile recovery that I talked about? When I’m in a fragile recovery, it’s most often because I feel as if I don’t have control over my life; that all kinds of things are going to happen that are going to rock me all over. Those things are able to move me. Sometimes, if I am not strong enough, they’ll move me out of recovery. This often happens because I don’t have enough support, or because I haven’t planned well enough.
So don’t lie to yourself. You are in control and if you don’t feel like you’re in control, start taking control bit by bit. Don’t give others your power needlessly and fight when others try to take your power from you. Sometimes we think that our power is gone, that it has been taken from us. It’s a humiliating place to be and it makes many of us angry.
I found that I hadn’t given my power away; it was still inside of me, but that I had to look for it, dust it off and then start use it once again. The more I used it, the better I became at being in control of my life once again. I had to start somewhere. Don’t let others automatically have power over you. If you can, start to make some choices.