Over the past five years, we have seen a huge increase in the technology field which seems to have made dating hard. Our love for technology and the Internet have led us to a place where dating is not really important anymore and interacting with other people involves Twitter or text messaging. With the days of technology upon us, it seems like dating has gone to the dogs. Dating is a lot harder than it seems and a lot of people might not realize it or realize the impact this technology has had on the dating circuit. Before you go on a date or try to look for a date, you might want to think about some things that might be changing the dating landscape for the worse.
One thing that has drastically changed dating in the past few years is the use of technology including social networking websites. Social networking websites and email are becoming the only forms of communication people seem to want to have now. With so many people on the Internet, giving out your phone number has become a thing of the past and email addresses are replacing them. Who has time to answer the phone anymore? The person you are probably trying to get a hold of is probably sitting on Facebook or Twitter and not even paying attention to the phone. Social networking has made dating so hard because people do not hardly leave their house anymore or when they do it seems they already have a date. People are using social networking to hookup with a friend or find a date which is leaving out the older alternative methods of dating. Anymore dating consists of sitting at home and chatting through an instant messaging service or talking on video conference. The Internet has provided us with a lot of good things over the years but it has made us too lazy to get out into the world to find a date.
Dating is also harder now because of the fact so many people are tired of getting hurt, lied to and cheated on. With shows like Maury we see that a lot of people will just lie and cheat and use you to get what they want. Watching these types of television shows has made a lot of people wary of dating or getting close to someone out of fear of humiliation and getting hurt. It seems like the younger people of today are more self-centered and egotistical and only want to better their own agenda which can make dating more difficult. People have gotten to the point in America where it is all about them and this type of attitude will always make dating harder. Getting hurt often in life is also part of this equation and might be why some people have shied away from dating, because they have gone through the motions before. If you get hurt enough times then you will just give up on finding love and feel more secure being shutoff from the wonderful world of dating and relationships. For people who have been hurt before through one way or another, dating is just something they can not stand to do out of that fear of the worst scenario happening.
Dating is also hard because of the fact so many people do not feel comfortable thinking outside the box when it comes to a love interest. As people, we are often more content when things are the same and when we are in a comfortable situation. It can be hard to think outside the box and try new techniques to get involved in dating or to try to find that special someone. Since our world changes everyday, we have to adapt to those changes and learn how to find what we need in other ways. A lot of people still look at dating as it was back in the 1950’s and this is just not how it is. It could be comfort with a living situation or comfort with being single and having only a pet to worry about and care for or something different. Our weakness is that we get content in the situation we are in and we do not worry about changing it even if we know we should change our ways.
Sometimes dating might be hard because we set our standards way too high for another person to meet whether it is financially or physically. We have all seen the model on television we wished we could snuggle with each night, but this is not a reality for most people. Someone with a perfect body or perfect teeth is nice but often times we cross fantasy with reality and then setup other people to meet that expectation. People like Matt Dillon are very attractive, but it is not realistic that every guy on the corner is going to look or smile like he does. Angelia Jolie is often a fantasy of men and rarely are you going to find a woman who fits that criteria and it sets the bar way too high. People we see on television are usually airbrushed and do not often look how you see them so it is important to not set your dating standard to an unachievable level. Financially, it is almost always going to happen that we want to find someone who has money to buy a nice car and nice house, but it will not always happen. You should not worry about the amount of money someone has when you go on a date with them, it is important but it is not everything. It takes time to build up a lot of money and most people will not have that kind of money in their life that you are fantasizing about. We set goals and standards way too high for a date and then it makes us look like shallow people to point out these types of expectations.
Giving up or wanting fast results is also another reason why dating is very difficult to do and it does not matter your age. Dating also is something that might take years in order for you to find that person you think you should spend the rest of your life with. A lot of people will think if they go on a date then they will magically find that special person within a week or a month and this is not true. Dating is something that you could do for three years before you really find that person you are truly interested in and giving up happens quite a bit. People want fast results and do not realize that dating takes time and effort and even some luck. People will give up on dating before they find the right person for them because they think it is not working or paying off.
Dating is also hard to do because often times we think we are not good enough for someone we feel interested in. When you go on a date with someone, it can make you uncomfortable and you might try to act like someone you are not to impress them. This behavior often happens because the feeling of not being good enough or having lower self-esteem that might prevent you from thinking you are worth it. We can be our own worst critic sometimes and this is especially true when we are dating or trying to find someone to date. There is so much time spent on trying to hide this or that and it makes it difficult for someone to really see who you are inside. Dating is something we all can do but knowing that you are a good person and you are worthy of that special someone is the hard part. If you see someone you like then you need to go up to them and ask them out on a date, forget worrying about whether you feel good enough for that person.
