Believe it or not, all women aren’t desperate to push their man down the aisle after a few months of dating, but at some point – two, four, five years into a relationship you have to ask “Where are we going?” If you are sure your current boyfriend should be your future husband then letting him know that it’s time, might save you from a ten year relationship with no ring. If you are one of the many women who are ‘a little bit married’ fear not, this article might help you decide if it is time to walk down the aisle or walk out the door.
Tell him. Mentioning friends’ upcoming nuptials, or saying what kind cake you would like, and what month is the ideal time for a wedding, might just give him the clue he needs -but, more often than not it won’t be enough. Women have been dropping hints for ages, and men have not recognized the hint for just as long. To avoid any confusion, or more hurt than necessary, be direct and let him know you want to get married. Sitting him down and saying “I would like to get married soon,” is a direct, no confusion way of saying you are ready for the next step.
Either he’s in or he’s out. Women, have been known to eventually reached their breaking point and give their boyfriend the ultimatum. If you have already told your boyfriend that you are ready for the next step, but are still waiting to step up- it may be time to say good bye. Saying “Give me a ring by this June, or I’m gone,” can go a long way of deciding your relationships fate, but be prepared to follow through.
Tell him from the start. The best thing for a woman of marrying age to down when entering into a new relationship is to be direct. Mentioning that you feel like you are ready to settle down and start a family will let him know where you are. Being open and expressing to him that you want to be able to discuss the direction of the relationship, is quite different from telling him one month in that you should get married.
Propose to him. I know some of you were afraid of this, but it is an option. If you are interested in making this person your partner for life, then make the first step! Don’t be scared of looking desperate or not being able to fulfill your fantasy. You still will get a ring, still will have a wedding, and most importantly still be able to spend your life with the man you love – isn’t that more important than your fantasy of being proposed to?
In the end, deciding if the relationship is healthy enough for marriage or if it is time to get married is up to you. Some women are determined to give men the push they need to get married, but end up forcing their mate down the aisle. If you want a healthy marriage then your best bet is to find a man who wants to marry you- not someone you have to force.