They were there when we were born. They were there when we were unhappy. We joined in family celebrations. Yes, there have been times of disagreement and pain. There have been times of loss and disappointment.
Yet, there is a bond that goes deeper than any adverse challenge.The bond of family is sacred and holy.The bond of the family is part of the dance of life.
At times, we take our family for granted. We may not give them the same respect and understanding which we share with our friends. Perhaps there are old hurts we can’t seem to forgive, perhapes some of which we may not be aware. The first step is to consider why we aren’t close to some of our family members. They may have hurt us in the past. Sometimes we need professional help to understand and work through our feelings. Not only is this okay, but it can be healing, as well.
Once we have worked through these feelings, then we can try forgiveness. I want to stress that forgiving is not the same as forgetting! There are many ways to forgive, and it would take another book to reflect upon that topic. However, once we forgive we can see that people in a new light. Yes, they have faults, but they also have positive qualities which we may have overlooked.
Communication and the words we use are very important with dealing with our family. Words can do many things. I have heard people say, “Oh, they’re just words. They don’t mean anything.” I respectfully disagree. We have all had times when we had a hard day, and someone said just the right words to lift our spirits. We may have worked with people who felt emptiness and pain. The only way they could relate to the world was through anger or hateful demands. Even though we understand their situation, the words felt hurtful.
How can we be aware of our words and how they affect others? First, kind words come from being at peace with ourselves. If we are at peace with ourselves and realize the power of words, we can actually verbalize positive and encouraging thoughts. If we have a mindset of wanting to bring hope to others, we can be helpful and not a stumbling block. We are able to impart kind words daily to the people we met.
How can we be positive with our family today? How can we think about the words we are saying? Having the desire to be kind will help. Observe each person you see. Listen to what they are saying and reflecting beyond words. If we think someone in our family is having problems, we might want to ask how they are feeling. If someone has worked hard and seems to need encouragement, let them know we appreciate the work they have done. There are many different ways to use words for hope and encouragement.
Today, we can think about our feelings for our family, and try and look at them in a fresh, forgiving way. Instead of focusing on what annoys us, think of their positive qualities and the small, caring things they do for us. Try to see things from their perspective. That doesn’t mean we necessarily share that perspective, but we can respect it. Today, let our eyes be open and awake