Grievers who find meaning in helping others
There are still another group of people that take from their experience and make it better for others who come after them. Candice Lightner founded the organization M.A.D.D. – Mothers Against Drunk Driving in 1980, after a drunk driver killed her 13-year-old daughter.
The Michael J. Fox Foundation is set up for research and advancement into the causes and treatment for Parkinson’s disease. Michael is using his time left on this earth to help others who come after him who may benefit from research and treatment long after he is gone.
Then there is a little lady by the name of Josee-Anne Desrochers. She was just a simple mother living in a poorer district of Montreal, Quebec. On August 10, 1995, she experienced every mother’s worst nightmare. Her 10-year-old son Daniel, was senselessly killed when a jeep exploded in front of him while he played with his friend on Adam Street. The tragedy was unthinkable and could have been avoided. The incident was not targeted for him; but, was one of the many senseless deaths involving Montreal notorious biker gangs.
Josee-Anne grieved like every other mother, then she went one step further, she called for a public inquiry into the death of her son. She was determined to put an end to the biker wars between the Montreal’s Nomad Chapter of Hell’s Angels and the Rock Machine. She wanted retribution and she wanted to make the streets save for children once again in Montreal. Through her persistence and courage the special Quebec Provincial task force, the “Wolverines,” was set up and eventually brought the bikers down.
People react differently to death and some do better than others. If you are grieving please don’t isolate yourself, open up and know that what you are feeling, whatever it may be, is normal. A trained counselor or support group can help you make it through life day by day; until the day that you can feel that you can take on the world, in your own way and in your own time.
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