Sometimes you have to pamper yourself, that’s all there is to it. Sometimes when you’re in a rut, bored, discouraged, sad, frustrated, stressed, or just generally out of sorts, nothing else will suffice, nothing will give you the boost, either emotional or physical (or both), that you need, like a good dose of pampering.
And what constitutes pampering? There’s no hard and fast definition of pampering, but it can include physical pampering, as in having a massage, or getting a manicure and/or pedicure. Or pampering can be taking some money, regardless of your budget, and spending it on yourself, preferably for something totally frivolous.
Or pampering can be turning off your phone, blocking out some undisturbed time to read, write, listen to music, watch a movie, play a game, or take a hot bath (with bubbles or nice-smelling stuff, candles, a glass of wine, music, or book).
Every person’s idea of pampering is different, so there’s only one rule: however it is that you choose to pamper yourself, do it guilt-free. This is a key component of pampering!
Why do you need to pamper yourself?
If you are bored or sad or discouraged or out of sorts, that’s not a good place to linger emotionally, and it can have a physical effect on you. So you need to find a way to get out of that mindset. If you’ve tried other things, and they haven’t worked, it may be time for a little pampering. In my experience, it always works, and I always feel better for it.
Why does pampering give you an emotional boost? In my opinion, pampering helps for a variety of reasons.
One reason pampering is good for you is that when you pamper yourself you’re saying “I’m worth it.” I’m worthy of having a massage, or of spending some money on myself, or taking the time to do something I really enjoy.
When you have this attitude, and act on it, you raise your consciousness, which gives you a boost. Just like eating chocolate or exercising gives you a boost, treating yourself well does, too.
Another reason pampering yourself is good for you is that it gives you that warm and cozy feeling of being cared for-or cared about. Who doesn’t like being coddled and catered to, or getting an unnecessary but wonderful gift? It doesn’t matter that you’re doing the coddling and gift-giving, the effect is the same.
Pampering is good for you literally, if the pampering you’re getting helps relieve stress or makes you feel better, like the beneficial effects you get from a massage, or a relaxing bath. Anything you can do that makes you feel better physically also makes you feel better emotionally. And feeling better is better for you.
Another reason pampering is good for you is that doing something new or out-of-the-ordinary relieves the ‘dull’ factor. Having a different experience every once in a while adds a little bit of excitement to your life-or a lot-which keeps you engaged and makes life fun, an adventure.
There’s not much worse than doing the same thing over and over, day after day. The monotony can wear you down without you even realizing it, and can take the joy out of life. Adding a little bit of pampering keeps you from getting bored, and gives you something to look forward to.
So the next time you’re feeling a little ‘off,’ consider pampering yourself. You’re worth it. You’ll be glad you did.
(Keep in mind that pampering needs to be a special thing. If you pamper yourself every day or every week, then it’s not pampering, it’s the norm, and can become as boring as everything else.)