I just have to wonder.
If one of Abbie and Daniel Dorn’s triplets were to be involved in a serious car accident, what would happen?
If one of their triplets became paralyzed would Daniel Dorn abandon him/her?
Would he cut off all contact and never visit his own child?
Would he refuse the child from visiting and interacting with his/her siblings?
Would he fight in court to keep his healthy children away from their sibling?
This thoughts are understandable, considering Dan Dorn’s behavioral history.
After all, Daniel Dorn was once happily married to Abbie Cohen Dorn.
She was pretty, athletic and worked as a chiropractor. She wanted more than anything to become a mom. And, she did.
After undergoing fertility treatments, Dan and Abbie Dorn conceived three miracle babies. in June 2006, Abbi gave birth to triplets, Esti, Reuvi, and Yosse. But something went terribly, terribly wrong. During the c-section the doctor nicked her uterus. Abbie started hemmorrhaging. She went into cardiac arrest and her brain was deprived of oxygen. This resulted in severe brain damage. She became completely paralyzed, unable to walk, talk or take care of herself. She can communicate through blinking, and she even cries. She can utter a few words, smirk, smile and her face lights up when visiting with her niece and nephew. But the old Abbie Dorn is gone. The old Abbie that I’m sure decorated her triplet’s nursery, went to breastfeeding classes, and dreamed of planning her daughter’s wedding, is no longer with us.
And what did Daniel Dorn choose to do?
He chose to divorce her. He said he wanted to get on with his life. He wanted to put her completely out of his life, and hasn’t seen her for several years.
He had been happily married to Abbie up to that point, and loved her very much before her childbirth injury. (Family has even said that during her pregnancy he took great care of her while on bed rest.)
But Dan Dorn selfishly felt that “in sickness and in health” didn’t apply to a birth injury caused by giving birth to his three children. Perhaps he thought “sickness” only meant only colds and splinters, who knows. He wanted Abbie out of his life and didn’t want to visit her again.
While divorcing her was unkind, many argue that it is understandable considering Abbie’s condition. However, nothing was more monstrous than the choice he made next. He refused to allow his triplets to see their mother.
He doesn’t want his triplets to hold their mommy’s hand.
He doesn’t want his triplets to be able to hug their mommy, and say “I love you.”
He doesn’t want his triplets to show their mommy their new toy, art work, or basketball trick.
He doesn’t want his triplets to know that their mommy loves them.
He doesn’t want his triplets to bond with their mommy.
He doesn’t want his triplets to know how much Abbie Dorn loves her precious babies.
He doesn’t want his triplets to know anything about his mom, or even know that she exists.
He doesn’t want his triplets to have a chance to feel and experience the motherly love only Abbie can provide.
While Abbie can’t talk, she can communicate through blinking. When asked if she wants to see her children, she’ll provide one long blink. Clearly, Abbie Dorn wants to bond with her children.
She is making significant progress. In fact, on a Facebook support group, one of her friends stated that she once told Abbie she was doing so good. She said that Abbie replied “good”, as clear as you and I.
Is it ethical that Daniel Dorn refuses to let his triplets meet or have any interaction with their mother? No, of course not. Any human being with a heart will tell you it’s clearly wrong.
Mr. Dorn argues that visiting with their mother would be “traumatic” for the children. Abbie Dorn already has a relationship with her niece and nephew, as shown in photos. Are they traumatized? Clearly, no.
Mr. Dorn argues that the triplets will feel guilty for causing Abbie Dorn’s injuries. The triplets did not cause her injuries, and it is evil that he is blaming them for their mother’s condition.
I am glad that Abbie Dorn’s parents are fighting for her. It will be a good day when Abbie’s precious triplets, will be able to see her, hug her, and feel their mother’s love than no birth injury can destroy.
Please read “Open Letter to Dan Dorn, Ex-Husband of Abbie Dorn” for more insight on Abbie’s story.