Conclusion of the Personality series
Previously published in Examiner
The introverted personality is a personality type for the person who is often a loner. Introverts are not unhealthy in anyway; unless it goes to the extreme where they never want to be around people in general. An introvert is just a personality style. Introverts would normally prefer to read a book than to go out and socialize with a group of people.
If children are supported and validated throughout their home life and schooling they will be confident, they will try new things, they will be less afraid of people or challenges and they are generally more successful in life. People who are self confident are more likely to say what is on their mind than people who feel their opinion is not important or they are afraid to say what they feel in case others will disprove.
There are just too many aspects of personality to cover in one article. However, you are getting the gist what I am saying here.
So who are we anyhow? Are we individuals who made our own choices in life or have we been influenced by what other tells us we are and what others tell us to do? The answer we have been influenced and many times it is at the subconcious level and we do not even know.
Think about some of the choices you have made in life. Have you gone to a certain school because your friends were going to that school rather than because you really cared about the school?
Did you fail to date or marry someone because your parents didn’t approve even though you really loved the person?
Or did you marry someone only because your parents, family, and friends expected you to even though you were not in love.
Maybe you got married only because your friends were getting married and you didn’t want to be left out or feel inferior in anyway?
How about your choices in careers? Did you become a doctor, lawyer, welder, or laborer because that is what your family did before you and you really didn’t think about it, you just followed them?
Do you sometimes act a different way than you really feel you want to in front of certain people? Think about it, when you do that, are your really being yourself? Do you really know who you are and what you want in life or do you want what others want for you?
Now, think about some unconscious choices you may have made based on what other people wanted. For example, you never thought about yoga before, but you new neighbour does it every morning on her veranda, suddenly you find yourself in a book store and you walk over to the yoga section, you never did that before. You buy a book and you get started. Consciously you made that choice to do so of course, but subconsciously you would never have thought about if you didn’t see your neigbour doing it. She never asked you to try yoga, she may not even have known that you were watching her.
The study of personality is fascinating, and it is influenced by everything in our environment. To illustrate, you never get enough sleep, you work long hours and you sleep on a terrible mattress, you twist and turn all night long. You wake up grumpy because you are overtired and you stay that way for most of the day. Are you grumpy because this is your natural state, or is it because of the environmental conditions you are subjected to? It might be a bit of both, but change your hours and your mattress and you may just be surprised at how much better you feel which in turn puts you in a better mood.
Lisa Santa-Maria Barbagallo