I recently read an excellent article by Brett Blumenthal entitled “Six Signs You Are in a Healthy Relationship.” At the end of the article the reader is challenged to consider what traits would be important to you and to examine whether or not you are in healthy relationships. I felt that was a great ending and have decided to do that and then pass the ball to you, the reader.
I am sure what is important to each one of us is much different from person to person. At the end of our traits however I am reasonably sure that the desired results tend to be the same.
The thing I would like to see in a relationship whether romantic or friendship is strength. All of us fall down at times and it is nice to have a person who can pick us up when we are down. By the same token strength is something I want to work on because it is important in this world.
I prize intelligence in my relationships. The person does not have to have a genius I.Q. but I would hope they can figure out life’s basic problems and can at times enjoy more intellectual events. In conjunction intelligence I love a good sense of humor. I have seen a roomful of tenseness be torn to shreds by a single comment that made everyone laugh. The reason that comedies are so popular is that we need to laugh at ourselves and the problems we have.
Perhaps the most important trait I would want to have in a relationship is the ability to forgive. We are all human and make mistakes day in and day out. While at the beginning of a relationship people allow for all kinds of problems, after a time they often begin to expect perfection and that just will not happen. Forgiveness is at the center of any relationship.
The next trait I like is trust. Whether a person gives you a hand in friendship or a romantic relationship they are asking you to trust them and they say they are going to trust you. When you stop and think about it no relationship can continue for long without trust.
One final trait I see as important may be a little bit of a surprise to the reader, especially when I list strength as a desired trait. That trait is gentleness. I love people who have a gentle heart. I have seen some of the strongest people physically have gentle natures. That is a desired trait for me.
As with my reference article I suggest you take a few minutes and consider what traits are important to you. I am sure you will find more than six.
The reason I wrote this article was not just for a mental exercise for you. If we do not think about what we really want in a person then we will not find it and sometimes we will suffer for it.