After my mother went to be with the Lord, my 90 year old Dad started dating due to the overwhelming sense of loss and loneliness. Although mom was the perfect woman for him when it comes to being a typical “old fashioned women,” still something was missing. You see, though my mom loved my dad very much, she did not know how to show affection, and, for an old fashioned Italian man affection was as important as food, sun and the air we breathe.
My Dad’s search led him to a woman 20 years younger than him. When he asked her why she said, “yes” to his request for a date, she said that it is because he looks like Paul Newman and does not have a pot belly. They dated on and off, and, he really liked her cooking, but, mostly she liked to go out to eat. Although I could see that she had feelings for him, he was out of the dating market too long to recognize it. He also felt that she was too bossy. When I met her, I just felt that she was very assertive. For a woman of today, I did not feel that she was too bossy. I might add that I really liked her and know that we could have had fun together!
At any rate, they decided to cool it for a while and Dad continued on his quest for that “old fashioned woman.” Next, he dated a woman closer to his age, however, she was single all her life, had many friends, hobbies and was a true “out going” type of person who never wanted to stay home and cook. I think that the reason why Dad is having such a hard time relating to women in this day and age is because Mom was one of a kind. She very much enjoyed staying at home cooking, keeping her house immaculate, working on her poetry, etc. Mostly she lived to please her man and anticipate his every want or need. That was how she showed her love even though she did not know how to be outwardly affectionate. Needless to say, my Dad is still looking for the “old fashioned woman” who loves to stay home, knows how to be affectionate, clean the house and cooks.
There is much to be said for the “old fashioned woman” who lives to please her man! It is not impossible to be that kind of a woman and still be very much fulfilled. Once you get organized, in between the household chores and cooking, you will still be left with plenty of time to get into your enjoyable hobbies. I find that I would rather be engrossed in a hobby like art or music rather than work outside the home at a nine to five job that is repetitious and brain numbing. If a woman is fortunate or blessed enough to have a man who enjoys being the sole bread winner, then, I feel that the woman he loves is very blessed indeed to be able to enrich her life with hobbies and learning new things.
However, it is possible for one to turn an enjoyable hobby into a money making venture so that one can add to the financial security of the household. I might want to add that I am finally able to function as the typical “old fashioned woman” due to the fact that my husband wants to be the sole bread winner, and, at our age our house is paid off. I guess one could say that due to my childhood desire to please my dad, I have acquired all the qualities of the “old fashioned woman!” My husband thinks that when he met me, he died and went to Heaven. Everyday he tells me how blessed he is to have a woman like me. Therefore, I feel that there is something to be said for living to please your man and all the while being able to enjoy your treasured hobbies and continually being on the quest to learn new things.
I might want to add that I would love to be able to turn my new learning experiences and hobbies into money making ventures so that my husband can go back to school and eventually quit his manual labor type of job.