When a man enters into a relationship he may not say much about it if it’s just so-so, regular, or blah. But when a male gets interested, really interested in a woman, then get ready for a gush fest to his male friends.
Most of the time, men will probably not talk about their dating life since they may keep to themselves and don’t talk about feelings. Men would rather talk about sports, cars, work, and anything but a relationship.
When men get their emotional strings tugged then they may start to open up about their significant other. If a man begins to yap to other men about his relationship, watch out because he generally wants something done about it.
When Things Get Good
If things are going very, very well in a relationship a man will feel happy about it and have no problem telling other men about it. Unfortunately, the conversation may not revolve around feelings or the status of the relationship.
A man wants to feel vindicated and important and the times he talks about a relationship it’s almost as if he asking another man if he did the right or wrong thing in a relationship. When Joe asks John what he thinks of asking a woman to move in together it’s because he’s trying to gauge whether it is the right time to do so.
Men will also ask advice of other men when they want to make decisions about the future of the relationship. What should I do next, Bob? What did you do with Karen after you moved in with each other?
When Things Go Bad
When the relationship goes badly a man will ask his male peers what may have happened to them when a romance turned sour. When my girlfriend suddenly didn’t want to talk to me anymore in college, I asked my roommate if anything like this had happened to him at any time in his life.
Men will also be there for each other much like women going to bars. Men are there to help get over a bad relationship and will go out on Ladies’ Night to find the next one to help heal a wounded heart. Manly time is the key to helping each other get over female frustrations. Backyard football, getting tickets to the big game, and working out at the gym to help work off steam from an emotional breakup or hard times in the relationship.
Men really will talk to other men about their relationships but likely only as a last resort when things get difficult. We don’t want to seem too fragile around our pack of men or even to our female friends when we look for comfort and support. All we need is time and ways to work out our feelings when we talk to our man friends about the significant others in our lives.
