Men rarely talk about their relationships with other men unless it concerns a problem or a big commitment. A common question among close girl friends of mine is if men discuss their intimate relationship details with one another. The answer to this question is often complicated. Men bond and interact through actions, such as watching a football game or going out for a beer rather than talking. We are reclusive when it comes to sharing relationship details, unless it concerns a big problem or breakup.
We Share Intimate Details Sometimes
For the most part, men are very respectful in relationships when it comes to sharing intimate details of the relationship. Men consider sharing emotions and their thoughts as intimacy because we are opening up to our girlfriend or wife. However, we do not consider what happens in the bedroom as the most intimate part of the relationship. The reason for this thought process is that men often talk about their sexual escapades, but rarely talk about their feelings with other men. We may share details about your performance or if you were better than our last serious relationship. This may seem insensitive, but for men that are still maturing (20-30 years old) this is what we talk about to other men.
We Discuss Breakups and Relationship Hazards
Nothing turns a man into a big wuss faster than a breakup or relationship trouble with someone that he truly cares for. A woman that we emotionally open up to and feel completely comfortable with is a rare occurrence. We may have had a lot of previous relationships, but we rarely open up to everyone we are with because we are protecting ourselves from feeling vulnerable and hurt in the event of a breakup. When a relationship is ending with someone we, care deeply about we may cry or discuss our feelings with our male friends. I have seen this happen many times, but it is never talked about again after the incident.
Is the Relationship Going Well?
If the relationship is going well we will tell our friends that we found someone that is truly special to us. This is sappy and most of our male friends hate hearing about it, but it is something that almost all of us share. If we talk about you or boast about how great you are to our friends then you should be comforted by the fact that the relationship is going very well.
Did We Just Start Dating?
Men hardly talk about their relationship unless it involves graphic details about their sexual escapades in the early weeks of a new relationship. From my experience and counseling of other men, I have noticed that men take a while to trust a woman enough to become emotionally attached to her. If we just started dating, chances are you are in the same position as many other women have been, and this does not warrant bragging to the guys about the new relationship. However, once we become emotionally attached and comfortable with you then we will brag and talk to our friends about every relationship detail.