Equally sure! Differently sure! Think about the series 7the Heaven. This family had many children. They were all loved the same, however differently. If you’re a faithful fan of this popular serious, you have followed them on a never ending journey, a journey that kept their parents on their toes. These parents were far from perfect. Their children had issues with their other siblings just like any other family. The key that kept them always together was love. Their parents had to teach their children about fairness and understanding. They had to get inside each of their heads, and learn all about each of them as an individual, and learn to discipline equally, but differently. Love is always equal, however different.
Loving a child differently than another maybe as simple as understanding their differences. One child may have received a below average grade in a certain subject. This may have caused grounding from his parents. The other child may have received a below average grade also. One child may have had an illness, which lead him not to be able to study correctly. This is only one reason why a parent may discipline differently.
Parent’s need to realize that all children are different. Children simply need love. They also need parents to be an example of love and fair play. If parents teach their children about compassion, their children will be understanding. They will learn to accept their brothers or sisters differences with an understanding heart.
A compassionate parent can’t help but have compassionate children. Children learn how to be this way, by seeing, listening, and feeling strong emotions for one another. Children need to understand that sometimes one child need a different set of rules, due to specific care needs. It could be due:
*To illness
* Mental capabilities
* To size difference
*To age
* To strength differences
If two children have been ask to bring in logs for the fire. One child brought in an arm full of logs, one child only brought in a few. The parent needs to find out the reason. Could it be that the one who brought in only one log became ill, or was it due to laziness? Does one child have more strength? Is one much older than the other child? All options need to be carefully studied. If parents aren’t fair, children, will become jealous and resentful.
Children are born curious. They can’t help but be curious, if they feel they’re treated unfairly. Give them reasons to trust your judgments. This will help children understand the difference between loving equally but differently. They will learn that love and fairness go hand in hand.
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