No matter who you are, you have been hurt somehow in the past. Although some people have had horrendous things happen to them, anything in your past that holds you back is something that you need to recognize. No matter how big or small, when something damages you it doesn’t mean that you cannot move on from feeling the pain.
The key to being able to let go of a painful past is forgiveness. Sometimes it is not possible to forgive someone by telling them because they no longer are here. It is never too late to be able to go through the process of forgiveness.
When forgiving someone for causing you pain, you are letting go of being their victim. Deciding not to be a victim of the past can free you to live again. It can take time to learn how to be happy and how to trust again, but when the day finally comes, you will feel free.
When you hold onto the anger, the hatred and the pain from a painful past you live with a cancer burning inside of you. It affects all your relationships and it keeps you from being the person that you could be. Whatever wrong was done to you is still eating away at you and you are allowing it to. You have the power to end the suffering.
Tell yourself that you are worthy of having a happy life. You do not need to feel guilty for what happened to you in the past. It is time to let it go. Bad things happen to good people. If you can find the strength to overcome the past your life can change.
Sometimes we can get stuck in a rut where we keep expecting things to be different, for someone who has wronged us in the past to change- sometimes we just need to accept people for who they are. Try to understand why people act the way that they do. No one is perfect and often when people do us wrong, it is because they are flawed and damaged themselves. Having some compassion makes it easier to forgive.
You need to forgive for your own mental well-being. When you understand that you are forgiving someone for committing a wrong against you, it is not that you are saying that what they did was okay, what you are saying is that you can forgive them. You need to heal and letting go is part of the healing process.
To move forward, you need to define yourself as who you are today, not the victim of something that happened yesterday (or years ago). Learn from the pain and how it made you feel. Become stronger and don’t allow it to define you.
Too many people go through their lives carrying the burden of the past with them. It is time to let go because your past is holding you back from having a fulfilling life. You have the power to rise above whatever tragedy you have experienced. You can be happy that it is over and choose to live your life to the fullest. Letting go of a painful past is the only way to move forward and begin to truly live again.