As relationships develop, they cannot sustain on autopilot. They do require work and attention in order to be successful and endure over time. You both need to invest time and effort in maintaining and growing a successful and enduring relationship.
Key ingredients to a successful relationship
*Treat each other with respect and trust
Partners who have respect for each other, have a genuine concern for each other’s feelings. When you truly respect your partner, there is no place for belittling or criticizing behavior. When you trust each other, there are never issues with jealousy. You will have a sense of personal freedom within the relationship because of this mutual trust. In some instances, if you are unable to trust your partner, it may be that you do not trust yourself.
*Communicate your feelings and listen
It is critical to be able to communicate how you feel and have your partner validate those feelings. Validating of feelings requires active listening. The ability to communicate your feelings and to have them validated is a key component in a successful relationship.
Appreciation is something you each need because it is an acknowledgment and expression of feelings for each other. It is practically a guarantee to bring a smile to your partner’s face. You can express appreciation in a variety of ways. You can simply say the words “I appreciate this” or “I appreciate you.” You can show your appreciation with a card, a special gift, or a show of affection. This is another key ingredient in the recipe for a successful relationship.
*Spend time together
Actions speak louder than words, and when you make time to be together, you are communicating that the other person is important to you. This does not necessarily have to be going out on an expensive date. Doing something together that you both enjoy is a key ingredient to being happy in a relationship. Maybe it is renting and watching a movie or even preparing a meal together. The important thing is that you are doing something together. When both people are working and maybe children are involved, achieving this may take some planning and time management. It will be worthwhile to both partners for the success of the relationship.
*Do something specific that you know will please the other person
Sometime the little things make a difference. When you do something special for your partner, you are in effect showing how much you care for that person. When you know your partner well, you will realize that some things will most likely cause displeasure. If you can avoid these, it is to the benefit of both of you, and ultimately the relationship.
A committed relationship is one of the most valued things in life, and not everyone is fortunate to be able to attain this. If both of you are committed to investing the time and energy needed to maintain your relationship, you will have the recipe for success.